Inconsistent dad.

[Aerial200]

So since my partner left the home near the start of the year, I feel his commitment to our children seems to be dwindling.
over the past few months there always seems to be an excuse for why he cancels to see them on the day we have agreed. They live with me and he is meant to have them one of the days of the weekend.
he seems to cancel to day he is tired or he is ill….
I’m always giving him options to see them and I’m overly flexible everyone tells me because empty of the time he doesn’t tell me the day he is available until the end of the week. I am always kind and never bash him in front of the kids and in general but his constant pathetic reasons are starting to frustrate me! This weekend he text me on the day to say that was going to have to ‘pass’ on today because he was run down, and it just annoyed me! I never tell the kids when he is coming because of this behaviour!
just wanted to vent makes me sad because I’m trying to keep it positive and want my children to be happy! They are my life and they come first!
thanks x

He sounds like a totally shit dad.

How old are your kids?

@yehisaidit 4 and 2 x

He doesn't want them because they're hard work at that age. When are you getting a break OP?

I would stop being so "kind" and give him a set time which he takes or doesn't. He won't, but at least you won't be waiting around for him to tell you.

It's a shame for your kids and for you, but men can't be forced to be decent parents unfortunately and you will have to make the best of it.

@OhamIreally yh I think that he seems to like small short bursts of them and I do it because I wouldn’t ever want to have you stopped me seeing the kids thrown back at me.
I don’t really my mum is really helpful and has them while I’m at my jobs.
I have started to give him less options and if he misses the time I’m not agreeing to random hour drop ins because that’s not healthy for the kids. I think in the new year I will be more firmer around this because it’s not fair! He saw them 2 hours last week because he picks them up from school after school cub and with bed time it works out an hour a night each evening which is nothing. Just trying to do the best for my lil beans dxxx