3rd pregnancy

[Natbxx12]

I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old and have just found out I'm pregnant. I took all precautions not to fall and yet here we are. I don't know what to do. I've struggled going from 1 to 2 and I feel like I've just found my feet. We have a tiny house, a tiny car and we are currently setting up a new business and money is not existent. Through no fault of our own we are in the worst financial situation we have ever been in. I can't think of any possible way that we can make this work. The only alternative is a termination and due to a traumatic loss we suffered 3 years ago the idea of a termination petrifies me and I don't know if mentally I can get over that. I don't really know what answers I'm looking for I guess I just needed to vent and hope that someone may be able to offer some reassuring words

Following as in a very similar boat! I've a 1 year old and a nearly 4 year old and I'd be due next summer. Eeek

This sounds incredibly hard, and I totally sympathise as I have kids the same age and falling pregnant again would be a nightmare. Only you can work out the answer, but I would weigh up:

• how long is it likely to get the business off the ground? Can you reuse baby stuff? Babies aren't expensive initially if you can just pass stuff down
• can you trade the small car for a bigger but cheaper one? Consider having a baby seat in the front and an adult being squeezed in the middle seat (uncomfortable but possible)
• house. Baby can be in with you for ages. Toddler too if necessary. How long before you could move? This doesn't need to be a rush
• emotional energy (this is where I struggle). Can you split yourself three ways and do a good job? Will you current children suffer?
• can you cope if this child has additional needs? A big thing stopping me is the increased risk of autism as me and my partner age. This is personal, but I'm very wary of stretching myself too thin on this and you won't know for a while. Or it might not be a concern. It's personal.

Best of luck x

Thank you for your reply. These are all things that I have to take into consideration and practically speaking this is not going to work. Ive just got to battle with my head and my heart and ultimately put my 2 children first and what is best for them. I have not yet told my husband because he's under incredible pressure right now but he thinks a lot more logically than I do. I think there's conversations to be had and obviously big decisions to make 😞