I'm looking for some advice. I have 3 kids, 3, 5 and 16. I recently separated from their violent father who was also a child abuser. When I found out what he was doing to them I immediately phoned police and the scum is in jail. But I felt so dreadful I gave my children everything they could ever want that I could provide.
But the backlash is now I cannot control the 2 young ones. I am being beaten, attacked, hair ripped out multiple times a day, told they hate me and the youngest says he will stab me and wants me dead.
It's impossible to go to the shops even for medicine without the public intervening to help wrestle him into the car or round the kids up. I'm totally isolated as he attacks other children and adults viciously and the 5 year old throws extreme tantrums.
If you can imagine 2 children that refuse to cooperate with ANYTHING! School, nursery, meals, bed, bath... every single thing is a full on fight and it's killing me. It's like living the domestic violence all over again. Reward charts are useless as they simply don't care, taking things away is useless as they value nothing. They seem hell bent on destroying everything.
I know I've made the mistake and I've tried so many things to fix this as school and work is falling apart and I can't sleep, cook, go out or stay in, I'm at breaking point. What can I do??