Overwhelmed going back to work

[LouiseTopaz]

I work in finance, my maternity leave ended two weeks ago and since coming bk Ihad work piled on to me, I don't feel like I can catch a break. My son's also had norovirus and the flu. I don't have any family close by to help with childcare apart from a younger sister. Twice a week I take my son to nursery, rush home walk the dog etc. then once a week drive to my mum's 1.5 hours away. I told my husband to sleep in the spare room so he could get some sleep and this morning on the way to my mum's I hit my car on the gate and punctured my tyre. My husband's response, well you're just gonna have to take the day off, when my son was sick it was me sorting childcare arrangements out etc. And the same again today while he just goes off to work because I work from home. I actually get paid more than my husband and if I take a day off my work just piles up until I'm back. I just needed to vent because it's also me trying to sort my son's childcare and my work that's affected. I'm starting to regret going back to work and can understand why so many women don't.

Going back to work is brutal. Why are you driving 1.5 hours to your Mums? Is this a childcare thing? If yes it’s madness.

Get a dog walker

Your problem isn't that you're back at work, your problem is a husband who won't pull his weight. When both parents work, both parents need to be equally sharing the load of sick days, arranging childcare and sleepless nights. Why is your husband sleeping in the spare room so he can get sleep? Are you getting a night in the spare room to get a good night's sleep? Why are you driving 1.5 hours to your mums?

Women shouldn't feel they can't go back to work because they have useless husbands. Your child has 2 parents and you need to have a proper conversation with your husband about him equally taking the load from you.