Telling a child about a sibling they don’t know about

[Zeldee]

My ex left me while I was 20 weeks pregnant after being in a relationship with him for 5 years. I have not seen him since.

my beautiful girl is now 12. While she was in primary school she underwent counselling as she was so upset other daddies were picking up their kids. I was told to be honest with her in the fact that he was not coming back so that she understood not to be waiting for birthday cards etc. I was honest it’s her when she asked anything about him, but as advised never to expand on what is asked, I never did.

the thing I need advice on now is when to tell her she has a sibling. We live about 16 miles away and her friend is in the school where her sibling will go. Her sibling also has a distinct surname.

please help with any advice

x

I did it differently . Although very similar . I told my Ds he had a half brother who his dad also didn’t see . I did it so it wasn’t a surprise . What age is the other sibling ?

I'd have told her as soon as she was asking questions about her dad. Certainly by the tine she was receiving counselling. As soon as you can OP.