Feeding 6 month old in pram

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I don’t want to be ‘that’ parent who goes around telling friends what to do, but I’m wondering what to do here.

I have a friend with a DD who is 3 weeks older than my DS (6 months). She is quite lax with safety in my opinion (for example allowing baby to sleep on her partners chest while they all slept when baby was a newborn, not sterilising bottles at times, putting baby in the car seat on top of the worktop unstrapped, having stuffed toys in baby’s sleep space etc). I tried in the past to mention things in passing about safe sleep but she has continued to practice unsafe sleep.

Her DD has been weaning for around 6 weeks now and she shows pictures of her sitting in a bumbo seat on top of the kitchen table and also baby eating her dinner in the pram when visiting family members. I believe this is a huge choking hazard and that baby should be upright.

Is this something I should just mind my own business with or should I tell her that this is a choking hazard?

personally if I was unknowingly doing something unsafe with my baby I would be grateful for someone to correct me as I’d never want to put my baby at risk but I don’t want to come across as a know it all or judgy. Any advice would be appreciated as I’m struggling to turn a blind eye to the many, many safety risks!

If you do it, you probably won't stay friends. I'm wondering if you really are, or if it's just circumstances that have brought you together! You will inevitably cone across as judging her.

Why do you think your friend hasn't read just as much guidance as you, though? Do you really believe she's oblivious and you know better?

It sounds more likely that you just have different attitudes to risk, and different levels of anxiety around your children; perhaps she is a bit too chill and you are a bit too cautious, with the optimum lying somewhere in between: Maybe focus on trying to accept and learn from her more casual approach - it'll be good for you sanity when they start eating snails and climbing the furniture. In turn, leave your friend to pick up more caution from observation alone. The baby has made it through 6 months intact, so it can't all be luck snd no judgement?!

Yes to be honest it’s circumstances that brought us together (our DH’s are friends and we met when we were pregnant)

I definitely am quite risk adverse when it comes to my DS and always see the danger in everything! She will have had all of the same talks from the health visitors etc that I have had, so I suppose she likely is just taking a more casual approach.

I’m the type of person that once I know safety advice (for example safe sleep) I can’t ‘unknow’ it and perhaps I just need to butt out and accept that not everyone is as safety conscious as I am!

thanks for your perspective!

I can see you mean well but I would really mind my own business. The eating in the bumbo seat and upright pram seem fine to me. I’d be really annoyed if another mother questioned me. I think like pp said people parent differently and we could all throw stones about something someone else does.