New sibling.. tell me this is normal and won't last forever

[Greenflamingos]

3 year old DC1 currently upstairs screaming and crying at her dad getting ready for bed, again. DC2 is 9 weeks. She generally is dealing quite well with her new sibling overall (with things related directly to DC2) but falls apart so often at completely unrelated things in the last few days. I try empathising in the quiet moments, "sometimes it's tough having a sibling, isnt it" but she says "no, he's so cute I love the baby!" But then completely falls apart next time she has to put shoes on or get dressed or get in the car seat. It's related to the new baby, right? Please send encouraging stories or tips 🙏

It will get better. The thing that worked for us was ensuring DC had a huge amount of attention from me rather than dh just doing it all. I think it helped her to not feel that she had been replaced

I agree, maybe take turns having the baby so your eldest feels special.

Has DC's routine changed? Is she kept awake at night with baby crying?

I might not be related to new sibling. I thought I got through terrible twos until my Dc turned 3 and suddenly she started to get overwhelmed. It didn't last long but I remember how it felt.

Yes it's linked to the baby but to be honest I don't think it would hurt to give her a bit more attention. If she's falling apart screaming because she wants you to do bedtime then I'd try to prioritise that so she knows she still gets some special time with mummy.

Thanks for the input everyone. I actually do do her actual bedtime and have done since getting back from hospital, but DH does bath (which he always did) and getting her into PJs etc (which we used to take turns at) now he is doing the PJ part a lot more but I always do stories and lying down to sleep. You're giving me good ideas though- one of the main triggers for bursting into tears seems to be around going out the house so I'm going to get DH to take DC2 out much more so I can stay at home with DC1 or go out with just her for a walk.
It's so hard to see her so upset at so many different points throughout the day all of a sudden :(

I could’ve written this post myself! DS1 is 3 and DS2 is 8 weeks old. DS1s behaviour over the last two months has been really challenging. He is so angry with me! I know it’s because I can’t give him all the attention he wants. What works for us is carving out time for the two of us, eg doing bedtime with him or planning an activity together.

Today we sat and painted for an hour and he loved it. DH took the baby out - that way I could be 100% present and he feels like I am still there for him. I also want to start doing some planned outings together, just the two of us. Anything to make him feel special and loved. I hope this phase ends soon though, it is so tiring OP!