So here is the scenario. Me and my ex partner have been to court. I was the previous main carer of our child. She is now the main carer of our child, I was safeguarded for domestic violence. She made allegations of sexual abuse against me. The court concluded that there was nothing to indicate either. We had a section 7. It's been 18 months now. My son is now asked about the past recently he has said to me that mum has said to him that daddy shouted at mummy and made her cry. As his identification to why I no longer live there. We both as parents did shout around our child. I ended our relationship. We lived together for 3 months after we broke up. I'm worried that my son is being emotionally manipulated by his mother, we are currently in mediation again. After shes tried to make holidays about her self for her own work patterns to work out. The first session of this mediation I listened to a barrage of her claiming that I am emotionally manipulating our son. She is correlating my son had been riding on my shoulders to preschool was emotional manipulation and when I say good bye to my son at school he gets upset and that is also emotional manipulation. Our hand overs go as follows, I never have seen my son she'd a single tear, he is always happy when I pick him up. Even other parents in the school yard say the same. (I'm guessing she has been getting into the ears of other parents in the school playground) When I hand over to her my son is always upset. He tried to hide from going back to her. His mother always needs to peel him off of me when we hand over. She needs to carry him because he refuses to leave on his own 2 feet. Guess what, shes decided I'm emotionally manipulating him for all those times too. I'm not lying when I say every single hand over has been identically the same. I'm deeply concerned about my son. She's said she no longer wants toys or any possessions I have bought for him in her home. Because she doesn't want to be responsible for them. I feel like she is more looking for a constant battle than looking to make my son's child hood the best it can be given his circumstances. Like I say he is now saying that the reason I live in the house I love in and not there with him is because I shouted at mummy and made her cry. I feel like she is in his ear and she claims everything he comes back from me there is always something negative. Like he says he doesn't want to go swimming with her anymore and only I can take him swimming now. I don't say anything like this. I'm at a loss with his mother. It's pointless trying to convince her otherwise but she's just looking to find a bullet to load her gun and blow my head off. I wonder how much she is in his head. He barely talks about her or what they do. I just ask if he has had fun. He doesn't want to talk though. I don't pry. I'm so worried about him . I have no trust for her at all, I think she is fabricating these things. I think k he says something's like he does but I think she adds on extra details to spin the story to emotional manipulation. I don't know if I should safe guard him. I really feel like I should, it just doesn't seem right at all. I just don't know if that's a good decision and the idea of going to court to basically just end up getting a bollocking from them really turns me off from safeguarding him. I want to protect him from her bullshit and 20 questions when he goes home to her and as for hiding from her and being so upset just doesn't seem right to me in hand overs. I get that he wants both of us to go home to be a family again. That's normal. Is constantly hiding from a parent normal? I need some help.