Child arrangement - video calls

[LucyLeah]

So , we had a mediation , we agreed on parenting plan, splitting holidays, alternating xmas and easter. My 4yo is living with me (mum) , ex is alternating weekends but he can't take all weekends so he takes 1 weekend a month or 2 if he can. 3 video calls weekdays and no calls to me on my weekends with kid, and i dont call him when he's our son for his weekend. All great, everyone is happy. If he can't have kid on his allocated weekend , we would do a video call. No, he realised he is not happy with video calls. He wants video calls every day, Mon to Sun. I don't want to see his face for 2 days over my weekend with our son. Am I being unreasonable?? In all video calls I'm always involved. I respect his weekend with kid and don't want to call him. Now he is threatening me to go to court to get video calls every day. Ha's he got a change to get it?? He is controlling, I cant have a day without seing his face until out son is old enough to have a phone and call him himself. Its going to affect me on weekends i have plans etc. Any advice on that ?

Let him have the calls but don’t be involved. Give your DS the iPad and do something else out of sight. He’s using this to control you and he’s looking for a fight. Don’t give him what he wants. Plonk your kid on the sofa, dial him up, and say have a nice chat with dad. They’ll both be bored in a week. Grey rock grey rock grey rock.

Just refuse. It's outside the agreement from the mediation. If he wants to go through the courts - let him. It will cost him and will take ages and in the mean time, the status quo persists.

Would imagine the phone calls are strained as a 4 yr old will loose interest very quickly. I would be tempted to say OK Jonny's wandered off and terminate the call but I appreciate it's not that simple.

Is it ever possible for someone else to oversee the call ? Granny / aunty / neighbour ?

No , we live alone with my son. Family are abroad and we just moved to the different town. no one can oversee the call. For now anyway.

I’m going through the same here. I think he’s doing it as a way to see what I’m up to and who’s around my house (obviously no one) but when we were together he would have a camera set up in the kitchen watching me too. What I do now is none of his business but apparently it still is and apparently all his family and friends want to know too. It makes you feel trapped and stuck with him.