12 to - chores/expectations

[PollyPeeves]

I'm curious to know what kind of chores/responsibilities other people expect of their 12 yo?
For context, my two oldest DC 12 and 9 live 50/50 between me and their Dad. I also have a 3 year old. My 12 yo is dyslexic and really struggles with organisation as part of this and I really do my best to support with this.
I created a board that's a check list of things to do when they get home from school. It includes making sure their room is tidy, floor is clear, bed is made, blinds and curtains are open, no dishes left etc. as well as homework, instrument practice for the day. They have set days for bringing their washing basket contents to the machine too. I've also asked the 12 yo to be responsible for loading the dishwasher after dinner and unloading it when they are here to do so. It's the only thing that involves doing anything for the other people in the house.
If 12 does not bring their washing down on allocated days (which quite often happens) I also add on that they have to then take care of hanging it up to dry. My rationale up to this point around this was that I am trying to encourage them to take some responsibility for their own things around the house. It also frees up the time for us to do more as a family as I'm then not having to do these things when I get home from work or at the weekends.
My DH and I work full time, long hours, quite stressful jobs.
I was discussing teen chores with a colleague and someone commented that they thought I expected a lot of my 12yo.
I would be interested to hear others thoughts?

Never ever believed in chores other than putting their stuff away in the house and their bedrooms.
They will be adults soon enough and doing their own chores.
I taught them.how to cook and bake.
How to use the washing machine/ dishwasher etc.
But never expected kids to do adult work.
They are not my slaves.. they are/ were my children.

That sounds absolutely fine and age appropriate.

My 11 year old son and 13 step daughter take it in turns to load the dishwasher after tea , take recycling out , feed the dog .

they get £10 a month pocket money

keeping their rooms tidy isn't included as they should do that anyway

other things we try and instill is to put their dirty washing into the basket the right way ( as in not inside out ) if not done I fold their clean washing but leave it inside out .

also to bring dirty glasses down from their room

I expect this from my 11 and 8 yo. Mostly keeping their own things organised and tidy. They get their school washing ready for us at the end of the week and I've asked them to put their bowls into the dishwasher after breakfast. Rather than just on the side. We also have a guinea pig they brush out and feed.

I generally prioritise homework first but they do help with other things around the house from time to time. The regular routine stuff they will forget to do all the time but they do actually like to help with other things.

I don't think it is expecting a lot. Like you say they need to learn independence and it is actually good for them to have responsibilities. I don't want them growing up thinking people wait on them and if they help get all the boring jobs done. We have more time for leisure and family time.

Thanks for all the replies. It helps! I just started doubting myself slightly after that comment:

To clarify, I in no way view my children as slaves and I don't think anything I've asked them to do is adult work. It is, as I originally said, mostly about taking care of their own things.i agree that they will be adults soon enough but I'd rather that they have some competence in the basics when that time comes.

Sounds absolutely fine to me. When my dh was a year older than that he had that level of chores plus a paper round job!