Partner keeps changing mind on another child

[Tally97]

Hello! So, I have 2 kids and we said we were 2 and done when pregnant with our second. However, 4 months after she was born I became very broody. Partner said now wasn't the time but we would discuss having another further down the line. Had lots of discussions over the last couple of years and in the end he decided he didn't want another. This was quite difficult to hear as I really didn't feel done but eventually accepted it wasn't happening. Move forward to a month ago and my partner kept hinting that he might want another. Saying stuff like "maybe we should keep this in case we have another" so I asked him if he did and he said he thinks he might want another. Typically I said I didn't really because I was just about to have an interview for a new job and I was going to focus on that. Unfortunately I didn't get the job so I started really thinking about what I wanted and what having a 3rd would look like and all my broodiness just came back so hard! So after a few days of thinking I decided to bring it up with him (quite excitedly). He then told me he's thought about it more and actually doesn't want another... How do I get over this? How do I change my mind again that another isn't going to happen?!

You both really need to sit down and have a proper honest conversation regarding a 3rd child. If you both decide yes, and you become pregnant, there's no going back. You both need to be 100% sure and in agreement. It's a huge decision but it needs to be a joint one. I don't know how old you both are, and what age gap there currently is between your children. Both play a part in your decision. If your youngest is say 4, then realistically how long do you want the gap between this child and a potential new sibling? If you're 25, waiting 5 years isn't an issue but if you're 38, then having a 3rd needs to be fairly soon.

As pp said, you need to sit down and discuss this.
To be honest, we decided not to have another one (my second is 5 months old), but when I pack, I keep thinking: should we keep this? What if we have another one? I think it's normal to feel this way, but it doesn't mean he will want one. He also has been honest about it from the beginning- it is a huge decision and it must be a joint one.