Sick children (vomiting)

[Sosijes]

I’m new here so go easy with me.

My ex had DD2 for the weekend (Fri-Mon) DD2 vomited a few times Sunday night, kept off school Monday. I asked that he keep our daughter to prevent the spread a a stomach bug to my other two children and myself (autoimmune illness over here).
Is this an unreasonable request? Is this selfish of me for wanting to protect my other two children and myself?

(DD1 has her exams so cannot get poorly and I am having a flare up so my body is already attacking my immune system. Of If I get really ill who looks after the kids?)

Opinions please.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable tbh! Having said that I have emetaphobia so if I wasn’t with my daughters dad I’d be sending her there 😂I think it makes sense, why wouldn’t you want to contain a bug to a single household? Plus she’s prob over the actual vomiting so it isn’t necessarily adding extra work for him!

Depends how your daughter feels. If you are the primary caregiver she may have missed mum when feeling unwell. Imagine then hearing ‘mum doesn’t want you back yet’.
If you reckon she won’t be bothered, and dad is happy, go ahead.

Thank you for your responses. I too have the phobia. My daughter would have understood and is quite comfortable staying with him when poorly… but he wouldn’t have explained it, he would have just said it how @Workingthroughit just put it. He likes to make me the bad person in any and every situation he possibly can. It have also just found out, this morning, he hasn’t even been looking after DD2, her grandparents have!

I can completely see your logic, would you do the same if she vomited on a Thursday night when she was due to go to your ex's on the Friday?

I assume she's off school today as well? I don't think there's anything wrong with grandparents looking after her as long as they're happy to do so - my PILs often offer to help if our DC are ill and off school. They don't offer if it's a vomiting bug though, which is very reasonable and understandable of them!

Oh I would now as he has a new (new but old) GF who has children so I wouldn’t want to spread it elsewhere. But before that if he wanted to have her after the vomiting stops then that would have been his choice.

i don’t mind the grandparents looking after DD2 at all, I just had it thrown at me that I’m a disgusting human being for asking for a bug to not be spread and it’s all my fault that they have her.