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nudity and general private stuff

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julesrose · 30/04/2008 13:21

What happens in your house? Do your DC share your or your DH's bath? Do you all walk round naked? Do they see you both on the loo? My dd is 5 and am starting to think perhaps some more privacy is required....

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lisad123 · 30/04/2008 13:25

I have 2 girls aged 5years and 7months. My girls both see me naked and my eldest will still share my bath if she wants, but not a regular thing. My DDs dont see my hubby naked, he always shuts the bathroom door. Its personal choice really.

ZoeC · 30/04/2008 13:26

dd's don't share a bath with dh or me, but that's more because dh only has showers and I love REALLY hot baths. They see us both naked though, on the toilet, etc although they are asking more questions now so dh is tending to be naked less now - dd2 keeps asking why daddy has a 'long' bottom and we don't .

Twinkie1 · 30/04/2008 13:26

God none of us care in this house - DCs will come into bathroom when we are in there bathing or on the loo and they both share baths with us - even come into bed with us and we don't wear anything in bed - I would not bother making it an issue until they do.

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julesrose · 30/04/2008 13:29

Do you have memories of seeing your dad naked? I don't and I'm thinking - though could be totally mistaken - that I don't want dd to have those memories? Am I being totally / slightly neurotic?

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JodieG1 · 30/04/2008 13:30

Yes I walk around naked as does dh and they often follow me to the toilet. dd is 6, ds1 4 and ds2 15 months. When they get a bit older and start to show body awareness then things will no doubt change.

pagwatch · 30/04/2008 13:30

Oh god my DD (5) still wants to bath with DH in the morning. She gets in bed with us. DS2 regularly still walks around naked. Dh gets dressed and undressed regardless of who is in the room. I tend to be discreet when DS1 comes into the room and he has just started locking the bathroom door when he bathes and showers. He is 14.

meemar · 30/04/2008 13:33

we have 2 boys aged 2 and 4 and they see us both naked in the shower/bath or getting dressed.

I usually close the door when I'm on the loo but more for peace and quiet than privacy! DS1 has started saying he wants the bathroom door closed too so he can 'concentrate'

MrsMattie · 30/04/2008 13:36

DS is 3. We give each other privacy in the toilet, but bathe together regularly and walk around naked in front of each other. DS is a curious child, but once I have answered a particular question about my body (and DH, too) he is generally satisfied and that's that. i find it best to be open and matter of fact about these things. We'll stop the nudity when it stops feeling right, I guess.

By the way, I have vague memories of seeing my dad in the bath (up to the age of about 6 or 7 I think) and my mum continues to walk around naked in fornt of me now

jingleyjen · 30/04/2008 13:37

We have a total open door policy here, DH used to close the door when he went to the loo but since he has spent more time on his own with the boys and they walk in when he is on the loo he has decided he doesn't mind any more.

I remember seeing my dad naked, still see my dads willy from time to time as he wears night shirts and he forgets that if he reaches up when wearing it, he provides is all with an interesting view! (as does my Dh)

Poledra · 30/04/2008 13:37

Two dds, 4 and 2. They regularly see me naked, on the loo etc (currently getting applauded by dd2 when I use the toilet, as we're trying to toilet-train her ). DH prefers to be left alone when in the loo and doesn't like to be seen naked by them (though he only really started this when dd1 was about 3).

Alambil · 30/04/2008 13:58

DS is 5.5 and sleeps in my bed (single parent). I sleep naked. I get up and put a dressing gown on sometimes but sometimes don't - he doesn't bat an eyelid and sometimes he sees me on the loo

S1ur · 30/04/2008 14:01

Lots of nudity here and bath sharing. All very open.

I remember seeing both my parents naked. I personally think its good to see real bodies just hanging about every now and again. Its a good antidote to the semi naked ideals plastered around the world.

I would offer your dd the option to bathe alone and then hop in otherwise.

julen · 30/04/2008 14:07

All open doors here, and it was like that when I was young as well (although not at DH's). Dd1, almost 6, will sometimes close the door when on the toilet, but that's more to have a bit of peace. I'm sure dc will indicate the need for more privacy as and when they need it. (As I recall my sisters and I did for a while..)

maidamess · 30/04/2008 14:11

NO ONE WATCHES ME POOH. I don't even afford my dh that 'priviledge'

But...we do ponce about in the nude, except when dd (12) is around.

She recoils at the sight of her father in the altogethers,(quite rightly!) and I don't want to put her off men forever.

phlossie · 30/04/2008 14:25

I remember walking in on my dad doing press-ups naked when I was about 19. That was embarassing. But, yes, I grew up in a 'naked' house so my dcs will too. There will probably be a stage when my ds will recoil at the sight of my bush, so I'll be a bit more discreet then.
Until then, I will carry on sharing my bath with my dcs, pooing with my dd on my lap/on the floor next to me and my ds offering to wipe my bum (he's going through the poo phase. I don't let him, btw!) I have even pooed while breastfeeding.
TMI. I'll go now.

brightwell · 30/04/2008 14:25

My dc dd(13) & ds (10) see me naked, I'm sure when they're uncomfortable with it they'll stop following me into the bathroom when I'm showering, getting dressed etc.

muggglewump · 30/04/2008 17:27

I tell DD not to bother me in the bathroom, wehatever I'm doing unless it's an emergency. I don't need company while I'm having a shit/shower/shaving my big toes
I'm not a naked person, I get dressed in my room and she's welcome in it at any time when I'm in there but I don't wander about naked.
Basically even now with a 6yr old it's easy for her to choose not to see me naked and that's how I plan to keep it

GooseyLoosey · 30/04/2008 17:29

Yes we share bath water (although I prefer a shower), yes we all wonder around with no clothes on and yes we all publicly go to the loo. dd is 3 and ds nearly 5. When the dcs appear uncomfortable, we will reconsider but I am hoping it will not be for a while as I like the relaxed/no closed doors feeling we have.

mankyscotslass · 30/04/2008 17:34

I have a ds6,dd4 and ds2. They all see me naked in the shower/getting changed and if they come into us in the morning, as we sleep naked. I don't think it is an issue til one of you is uncomfortable. In fact I think it's good that they know that not everyone is perfect...in my case far from it

Hulababy · 30/04/2008 17:34

DD is 6y. She still sees me and DH naked. We sleep naked so if she comes in our bedroom then she sees us then. Like Twiglet, DD will get into bed with us in a morning, etc. Have to admit that we do normally put PJ bottoms on, at least, if we are breakfasting in bed, etc. See sees on the toilet too as she is a devil for just walking in - I must remember to lock! DD hasn't shared a bath with DH for years - DH isn;t a bth lover so never has one. Mind you, neither is DD. She has showered and bathed with me, though tends to prefer her own showers for past year or so.

It isn't an issue for us at all yet.

girlywhirly · 30/04/2008 18:15

I remember DS then aged 3 coming into the bedroom where my top half was naked, and saying, "oh, you've only got your nipples on!"

I started to cover up when he was around 4, and he started closing the loo door when he was in the loo at around 6. He didn't see me on the loo after 5yrs and started having baths on his own at 7-8, but some of this modesty started due to new stepmother at his Dads.

misdee · 30/04/2008 18:33

dd's have seen us both naked. dh is starting to cover up a bit more now dd1 is getting older, but tbh they really arent that bothered.

my kids are extreme nudist though. dd3 was out on the trampoline the other day in the nude and it was raining and cold. she came in because it was wet

LaDiDaDi · 30/04/2008 18:41

DD is 2 and we never try to cover up. She loves to get in the shower with either of us and I've got in the bath with her before. Neither of us has ever talked about this, it's just what's happened and I expect that we'll just follow dd's lead with regard to privacy as she gets older.

My only concer is that I currently shave off all of my pubic hair, have done for years now, and I may have to think about changing this so that as dd gets older she sees it as perfectly normal for a woman to have pubic hair.

VanillaPumpkin · 30/04/2008 18:52

DD1 is 5 and dd2 nearly 3. DH would be naked all the time if he could be and they are always in with me in the shower and when I am getting dressed. I try and shut the door when I am having a number 2, (as does dh) but this doesn't always stop them .
Actually the dd's are just like their Dad and would rather be naked at all times too. I think it is lovely! So carefree .
We will cover up when they do.
I don't think there is any issue with the dd's remembering seeing their Daddy's willy. I would rather it wasn't some big surprise for them when they were older. They are only bodies.

VanillaPumpkin · 30/04/2008 18:56

Ladidadi - X-posted but I think that is a really responsible thing to do particularly as it is obv not your thing to be hairy.
It is important to me that the dd's see 'normal' bodies, as well as the crap in the magazines they will no doubt be exposed too when they are older. I do shave legs and arms and wax my bikini line but I want them to know what is 'natural' and not feel under more pressure to change themselves....anyway another thread there.....