New baby - not mine! - advice needed..

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my dp has recently had a child with another woman. He is very worried about how to tell our children. Younger one will be OK I think but older one may have some akward questions anyone out there been in this situation and have any helpful advice ?

Thanks

Is your DP living with you and your children?

yes

How old are your dcs? I'd tell them the basic facts - don't lie, but leave out the stuff that they don't need to know. I'm intrugued about how this came about - but I'm thinking that you and your dp had a break/rough patch when he fathered this baby? If so, your dcs would probably have been aware of that. Depending on their age, I expect they'll understand the biology and not need to worry about the complications of adult relations!
Honesty is definitely the best policy! Kids hate being lied to, but are pretty accepting of things - they believe in Father Christmas for a start!
Good luck!

thanks for your posts but anyone out there been here?

No, in my case, but I am sure we would still like to try and advise.

It all depends on how your children are as to how we can advise you really so that is quite relevant.

How old are your children? What kind of questions do you think they will ask?

6 and 12 - reckon they wil be more concerned about whether Daddy stills loves Mummy etc at least the 12 year old will

Surely thats not a difficult question to answer - a simple yes or no (Im hoping it would be a yes as he is living with you)
But also make it clear that he loves all his children and that is not something that is going to change even if he stops loving their mum.