AIBU to bail a booked pantomime as my baby won't let anyone else put her to sleep?

[Mamaof2littles]

My baby girl is 6 months old, ebf but will take a bottle of expressed milk. Every year we go to the pantomime (which I do absolutely love) as a family and out for food first. However, I breastfeed baby to sleep every night which Im happy doing and dont mind being the one to put her to bed. My husband has tried many times and she is just inconsolable.

I'm very nervous to leave her with my mam while we go to panto with family. I don't want her to cry and me not being able to be there to comfort her if she needs me to. Even if it's only once and just for a few hours it just feels wrong. I also know some family members will judge me for not going.

Do you think I'm being unreasonable? And that she will be fine and it's just a few hours even if she is inconsolable?

This is the year to bail! 6 months is very young and you won't enjoy it. Take a break and stay at home and re-join next year. Sounds like you're doing a great job, it's so full on x

@Jezzballs2000 thank you, that's what my instincts are telling me! I know I'm going to get comments but she's still so little and she comes first

If it feels wrong it feels wrong but honestly I'd go to the Panto. I think it would be important for your other child to enjoy panto with their mum, as per tradition.

You won't enjoy it so why?

However, if someone else paid, it would be good to reimburse them. If you paid, bail away!

@stormabrewing he's only 2 so won't be going either! I just know he'll be fine without me haha

Of course you’re totally within your rights to decline this event! Gosh at 6 months I would absolutely be putting my baby to bed. There’s no need to be going out for an evening which will cause both of you lots of stress. Forget any judgement from family members!

Are there other kids? Still, I don't see the problem in missing it this time.

You’re not unreasonable in the slightest.

@MrsTerryPratchett yes my gran paid bless her I feel so bad but if I don't go I'll definitely give her the money back

Perfect. Just reimburse gran and definitely go next year.

Oh I see a 2yr old who isn't going anyway. Definitely don't go!!

Ah well in that case go with your gut. Enjoy next years panto instead!

DD2 went to her first panto at 6m old. She went as a babe in arms and was free, so you could bring your baby with you as she wouldn't need a ticket. Mine watched some of the dancing then I breastfed her to sleep. Loads of other babies there so it wouldn't look odd at all. She's now 2 and has loved going to the panto this year!

This. Take her with you! Then no one needs to miss out.

I was taken to a panto when I was a child. Never wanted to go to another.
As an adult nothing would persuade me to go to panto.

Well the child will never sleep for anyone else unless you let them

Why isn’t the two year old going?

Of course she will. My teenager sleeps perfectly well alone even though I BF to sleep.

There's no medal for the tiniest baby you can leave at home.

Just take her? It's great when they still Bf to sleep as more portable.

The baby's not being left home alone. I think you should go OP. With you not there at all I bet baby will settle.

...ok?

Op obviously does like going to the panto

Op, it sounds like you can leave it guilt free this year

@Edingril lol yes she will my son was the same and he sleeps just fine with anyone else. 6m is very young

@Rafting2022 he's a bit jumpy and also doesn't sit through full length things currently

Don’t go. My little one is older than that but will only bf to sleep and gets v distressed if anyone else tries settling him when tired so I agree you will just be feeling worried when out so may as well skip this year