Sons

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I get so very sad when I hear all of the negative things about having boys.
As a very fortunate and proud mother of male children.

Can anyone else understand how pleased and lucky it is to have a child despite of their sex?

Three boys and so fortunate after four loses.

It's so sad to hear all the negativity about male children. My boys are my everything

Congratulations on your boys.

I bet your boys are not the same as each other. TheyThey'll have their own distinct characters. So there's no reason to fear they'll all follow stereotypes. One of my little boys LOVES a cuddle. One is quieter and prefers his own space. I have no doubt their personalities as adults will depend on factors other than gender.

Definitely! Mine are all grown up now. Very different personalities and have turned into very good men. They were lovely as children too, Quite large age gaps but are so close to each other and me and their dad.

I'm very fortunate to have them.

My son is the most wonderful caring husband and father who has put his career on hold twice to be a SAHD.He is also a good friend and a good son. We were delighted to have one of each and neither has been a disappointment .

I agree. I also have 3 teen boys and 4 losses. They are lovely and well mannered we have such a laugh when we are all together. They have different personalities but get on so well together.

Your boys are lucky to have you.

I have both and I can't imagine why people might prefer one or another. I've not noticed the criticism, though.

I have boys - what negativity are you talking about?

Challenging misogyny for example isn't a criticism of 'boys' - it's a criticism of behaviour. If my boys behave badly, I'm going to tell them so (luckily, they're good kids so far, who are appropriately skeptical of the dodgier stuff they hear from friends or on the internet)

I have an adult son and a daughter and am much closer to my son.

We have 3 boys and they are all awesome and different. We also have 3 girls. I've not heard any negativity about either sex tbh though

I have two adult sons. One is 36 today and he is the love of my life.

We have two boys and a girl. Mostly what I hear is how much harder work girls are than boys (which is true in my family!) rather than anything negative about boys. My boys are awesome, I was delighted when the second one was born and would have been happy with a third boy if that's what we had got.

What about the other one? (nosy)

My cousins are now in their twenties and thirties but they were the loveliest boys you could meet and have grown into kind and considerate men.

As a society we do need to work out how to eradicate male pattern violence. It quite clearly exists. The patriarchy also quite clearly exists. As does male privilege. We need to fathom how and why it happens, and study and talk about behaviour. Is that what you mean by negativity?

I agree ❤️ I adore my little boy, he is the most amazing little thing I have ever seen in my whole life, when we find out the sex of our impending second child I will be over the moon regardless. I never take for granted how lucky I am to have a healthy and happy child, couldn't give a shit what their sex is!

I'm assuming OP is referring to the countless threads about women who have gender disappointment because they always wanted a girl and have/are having a boy. I've seen so many lately

I have 3 sons and they are amazing. Never experienced any negativity about having sons.

I also have 2 daughters and likewise I’ve never heard anyone say anything negative except I did have a friend who wanted to abort her second daughter as she always wanted a son (so the opposite to what you are suggesting). She didn’t have an abortion but for various toxic reasons (including calling her poor younger daughter ugly and stupid all the time) I no longer have anything to do with her.

I wondered if someone might ask that! Love him to bits but he’s a completely different character. Harder to navigate but great company x

I'm assuming OP is referring to the countless threads about women who have gender disappointment because they always wanted a girl and have/are having a boy. I've seen so many lately

Oh, I must have skipped them.. I do see a lot of video shorts about men having the same disappointment when the balloon pops and it's pink though - so I think that that might be self-selecting on a website primarily used by women?

I had no strong feelings about having a girl or a boy, but people who believe strongly in gender stereotypes will likely have much stronger opinions on which sex they want their baby to be.

That is a cultural thing that should change - preference for boys is so deeply ingrained world-wide, that a bit of a pushback from women wanting girls doesn't seem like something I can entirely blame them for though

I have four boys, two teenagers, I love how people call them cute as kids then when they’re older are surprised if they’re polite, chatty or helpful!!

I would have liked a girl but every day I look at my two boys and think to myself how lucky I am. Genuinely.

And, I don't want a girl enough to try again because pregnancy is bullshit.

It is sad, especially when it impacts children.

Some negativity I've heard about boys tends to fall into stereotypes around boys being less able to communicate and more resistant to learning compared to girls - this cause issues with my oldest son when I tried to get help for his speech delays and communication struggles and was just dismissed with blaming it on him being a boy, even when he was 6 & never asked nor seemed able to respond as expected to why questions or other not yes/no/where questions.

I've also heard that they're less likely to be close to parents as adults, along with the idea that they're messier/smellier/so on, things that are clearly quite individual.

The worst I've heard is 'why would you raise your oppressor' followed by gross assumptions on what my son would do when he's older. Thankfully none of my kids were there for that, though my older two children and I have had some rough conversations around similar views of boys and men that they had heard and my son took it on his shoulders a bit in that he experienced shame and I think possibly even fear that as male that such things were what he was fated to do.

I have two of each, I've heard people shite on both. I agree that it's important to value each child, regardless of their sex.

I've had chats about this sort of thing with my young teen boy - it never occurred to them (at least so far) that things being said men do (eg. the higher rates of violence) would apply to them, because they have free will to not do that sort of thing. Perhaps because we do talk about this stuff, and approach it as a stats/academic sort of thing they're able to view it as it should be, rather than think it's some kind of unavoidable future.

The stinkiness though, that's real. The stench from his rugby kit is unbelievable, his room smells, despite him showering and changing his clothes and bedding frequently and airing out the room. I warned him it was coming though, so again, he takes it in his stride, and does what he can to mitigate it - I'm sure it'll calm down once he's a bit older (and moved out ;p)

I am phenomenally lucky to have my two year old son. He’s the most interesting person I’ve met.