Separated parents nursery

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Hello mumsnetters,

Im separated from my child’s dad and the nursery are saying they can’t be expected to share information to both of us as they have a lot of families on their books and they can’t make an exception. I’m fuming. This is clearly a different situation and I believe both of us should be informed through the proper channels.

Have you heard about this before? Don’t they have a duty to give both parents information

What kind of information? If it's stuff about keyworker meetings, room changes, events, changes to opening hours etc., then yes of course they should be able to share with both parents and it shouldn't be logistically difficult to do (add both to the relevant mailing lists, etc.) If it's more day-to-day stuff like did they eat their lunch and how many times did they go to the toilet then no (though my child's nursery puts this kind of thing on an app that both parents can access).

I’ve never had a nursery, preschool or school (and my eldest is in secondary!) who couldn’t even include both parents on invoices, emails, newsletters, or Tapestry (whatever online system they use). Of course, they can! It’s not my job just because I have a vagina to give Dh a run down of when Christmas jumper day and the nativity play is.

If you are asking to have them ring you to tell you when your dc had a poo or had for lunch on the days you don’t collect, yes, you’re being ridiculous. But both parents definitely should be copied in to all information shared around, like newsletters or reports.