I am a mum of a 2 year old, living in a two bedroom flat in London. I love my home and where I live. I have a good job in education and could support myself and my son if it ended up just being the two of us.
My husband of 7 years is flakey. This is the third time he’s had a crisis style melt down of ‘I’m not sure I love you - bla bla bla’. There is a good chance that this time we will split and go our separate ways. I don’t want to live the rest of my life wondering when he’s going to have his next crisis and I have to wait around until he decides if he wants to be with me or not.
As previously stated, I can afford to continue to live in London with my son in the flat if my husband was to move out. However, my family live up North. I am close to my parents and sister and have friends there too. They would become my support system as a newly single mum. I would also be able to afford a larger house with a garden and more space if I were to return to my home town. The problem is, is that although I would be able to get a job to support us, I wouldn’t be able to get the job I have worked really hard to get over the last 5 years. I would have to take a lot of steps back with no opportunity to get back to where I am now.
There’s also my son’s dad to consider. He absolutely adores our son and although he’s not around during the week due to work, I want them both to continue to have a good relationship. When I say up North, it’s very up north.
Has anyone been in a similar position, leaving a big city to return to their support network but in the process leaving their child’s dad behind and their job?