DS has become increasingly challenging and I'm not sure what's normal, or what I'm getting wrong as a parent but it's starting to affect everything.
The main one is night wake ups. He comes in constantly saying he is scared (sometimes he seems genuinely scared/had a bad dream so thats fine) but most the time it seems more of a power play/habit. This morning he woke 30 minutes early, I asked him to stay in his room with a book/playing until wake up time and he refused, stomping his feet, climbing over us, and overall being loud until the whole household (incl. siblings) was awake.
He won't get himself dressed anymore either, constantly asking me to help. He needs me to help put his shoes on too.
He plays up a lot and does not listen. He is very loud and constantly shouting. I'll ask 5, 10, 15 times for him to keep things quiet and it doesn't register with him at all.
In general, he won't do anything on his own anymore, and the things he used to do nicely I now need to ask him multiple times before he will listen.
It's starting to really wear me down, specially when I'm up with him every night.
How do I fix this?