Please help ( trigger )

[2daughters82]

Sorry if wrong thread I'm so so confused and shaking right now

(((((())Trigger for sexual abuse Please do not read any further as potential trigger for some)))))))))

I've just seen on my 13 year old daughters phone she has disclosed to her friend
She's been raped

No other details other than she's been struggling with her mental health for 18 months or so, was under CAMHs, has self harmed and diagnosed with eating disorder

I'm keeping her off school and haven't even told her yet - she getting ready for school

I'm taking her for a chat just me and her

Please help I'm literally so lost

Am I wrong for thinking it may not have even happened and I'm hoping she is lying !
I feel sick if this has happened how ?

Where do I even start and how do I manoeuvre this ?

Her dad is at work a long way away ! So he wants to come home but I've said let me talk to her so she's not overwhelmed
Last thing she needs is both of us

Please help me I only read this at 7am

I need to tell her now she's not going to school and email them she's unwell

Now what?

https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/help-after-rape-and-sexual-assault/

im so sorry to read what you and yours are going through xx

Update

She is adamant it hasn't happened and she doesn't know why she said it....

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I'm sorry this has happened - could you call NSPCC for advice on how to navigate it?

I guess you now have two options

• assume she is now lying to you as doesnt want to discuss it with you (when I was younger my mum found out something and when asked me I completely denied it and told her I was fine)

• assume she is now telling the truth and now needs to be informed about how damaging these false allegations are

either way id be taking her to a therapist.
this is an extreme thing to lie about. the lie needs to be addressed as to why she's lied about it.
if she is now lying to you instead to hide it she needs help to deal with it.

if you tell her youre going to keep checking her phone she will delete anything about it.
but if it is a lie then there should be some serious consequences and eduction for how these things impact people in the bigger picture as well as individually.