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22 months really anxious at playgroups

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Firstimemum24 · 02/12/2024 11:33

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Nearly 22 months little girl .

What she can do

  1. follow my point and use all the gestures
  2. 100 plus words with two words string together like eat cracker , sit mummy , daddy gone , fell down etc
  3. She never elopes and always follow commands when outside
  4. She can identify things in books and family photos correctly
  5. She can answer simple questions with yes or no , what’s that or where is ?
  6. Follow simple commands like : stop , wait for mummy and no
  7. Tells me when she does a poo
  8. Answer positively to simple instructions and questions : feed dolly or brush dolly’s teeth , pick up that you and bring it to mummy , bath time ( she runs to the bathroom)
  9. She pretends cook and brings us books to flick through/ read , brings dolly for a walk and pretends mix with a tea cup . She is very gentle with dolly and gives a Cuddle all the time , when the dolly cries she responds by giving her the pacifier .
  10. She is very affectionate and her tantrums never lasts more than a few seconds when alone
  11. Sleeps through the night since she was 14 months and does self soothe to sleep
  12. She brushes her own teeth and can point to all of her and our body parts

I am wondering if what I am about to list is cause for keeping an eye on .

  1. she started walking at 12 months on the dot and started tip toeing on and off since she was 15 months ( doesn’t do it with shoes ) . We have taken to an orthopaedic and he gave the all clear

my little one is now about to turn 22 months and after a chat with the HV she has been referred to a developmental paediatrician . The reason being that socially she is withdrawn. I am gonna give some examples: she is a very easy baby to raise except when in social situations whilst waiting in line for the playgroup to open she has meltdowns with kicking which she never does when in calmer settings or alone . ( her first meltdown lasted barley 10 minutes and disappeared the moment we got out ) She also gets easily overwhelmed by being in coffee shops . She gets all rigid and shaky and can’t stay still whilst at home she is perfectly relaxed sitting with us , listening to stories etc . She doesn’t cover her eyes or hears so not bothered by the noise . Now when people outside interacts with her she says hello and looks at the them and smile so the HV and I agree that there is no clear picture here . She doesn’t have any rigid behaviours or hyper-fixations , nor is she bothered by other kids, when in groups she parallel plays , looks at them , but socially she is behind .

She doesn’t go to nursery nor a childminder and her grandparents live abroad so she is only with us .

Also what is social communication for a 22 months old ? She passes the ASQ for 24 months already and the Mchat

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Katherina198819 · 02/12/2024 15:15

I don't think there is anything to be concerned about here - the fact that she is always with the same two people explains this kind of behaviour.

Kids need to be surrounded by other children - it's not like 150 years ago, when people had 10 kids and a village to help to raise them.

What is the reason behind no nursery? I am also staying home at the moment, but my daughter goes to nursery every day for half days- I wanted to make sure she socialised as she was always a shy child. She loves it and has loads of friends now.

I would really think about sending her to nursery, even if just for a few half days a week. It will make a lot of difference.

Delorian · 02/12/2024 15:17

Is she behind? I think most kids parallel play until 3 at least.

Stirrednshaken · 02/12/2024 17:40

Sounds pretty normal? Will she play with you at a playgroup? They don't play with or really interact that much with other kids at this age.

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Firstimemum24 · 02/12/2024 17:54

Stirrednshaken · 02/12/2024 17:40

Sounds pretty normal? Will she play with you at a playgroup? They don't play with or really interact that much with other kids at this age.

Yes she does she brings me toys and we build little towers but she does a lot of independent playing . I don’t know if I should persevere with it or wait a little longer . I don’t even know what the paediatrician could do 😞

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Stirrednshaken · 02/12/2024 18:45

I'd keep taking her, but to quieter ones. Some are better than others. That way she can see kids but there's no pressure for structured activities in close proximity and she can potter about and do her own thing. And I wouldn't stress about it. Tip toe walking is a normal part of development so at this age isn't very helpful as a sign of anything else going on.

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