Children completely feral after nursery

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Uncontrollable, shouting, running around and jumping off things. It’s embarrassing.

I just don’t get it at all, why aren’t they tired!?

Overtired and lack of structure/ rules/ consequences.

Wrong nursery for the child?

Unsettled at being away from mum?

Hungry ?

Try food

Not hungry.

Food and park to run around like a loon

It might be helpful if it wasn’t pitch black and raining! They aren’t hungry, really.

Put music on to dance too

What ages OP? Can you take a buggy with you - and if rules aren't listened to they can sit in there on the way home? Worked wonders with DS. If older, my rule was always if we're not listening we hold hands. DS HATED that and so learnt very quickly 😂

No - way past buggy age, four. And two, but the two year old is fine, just two iyswim. They’d be OK at the park but I’m not taking them in the freezing cold and pitch black. Plus I have to admit I kind of feel like surely to god we should be able to be in th house an hour without it being trashed but maybe not.

Either
Needs exercise ( change nursery if possible ) so dance around the house when you get home , make them do burpees and anything else ( bear crawl, kangeroo hops, froggie jumps , elephants )

Over excited and over stimulated - hug and a story

Just being naughty- age appropriate but very firm consequences

Sounds tough OP 💐

How about a Joe Wicks kids workout? DS is a bit obsessed with them at the moment and at least it gets them channelling the jumping about energy.

I don’t really understand why they aren’t tired. I just don’t get it. We had to go to the doctor after nursery today and it was just embarrassing. My four year old wouldn’t keep still, kept jumping off the chair and just constantly moving moving moving, other people reckon their children are tired after nursery, then home and they just trash the place. I’m really not enjoying parenting at the moment as you can probably tell.

They wouldn’t do anything like a Joe wicks workout, they don’t really watch tv.

Does the nursery put them both down for an afternoon nap? If so what time and how long is it?

My DD never napped at nursery which she started around 3. With the CM she stopped napping, except when she was in a car or with one particular child, by the age of 20 months. Even before then around 13 months she couldn't have an afternoon nap after 2pm otherwise she would be especially hyper in the evening.

Probably restraint collapse?

My younger one does but definitely needs it, she’s only just over 18 months. But the older one hasn’t slept in the day for ages, he’s the one who is completely out of control to be honest.

My kids are similar ages (just turned 4 and almost 2) and I find they are really excited to see each other after nursery as they’re in different aged classes. There’s a lot of rolling about the floor climbing on each other, wrestling, chasing each other about the house. TBH I just let them get on with it as long as everyone’s happy enough. Eventually it descends into tears and chaos because someone done xyz… and that usually signals time for dinner, bath, bed.

I also sometimes put on kid dance videos on the telly, they dance along, burn a bit of energy, and it’s some what contained. Chu chu wa etc.

Combination of overtired brain from following rules etc and under tired body because they don't spend enough time running around outside.

We always go to the park after nursery in summer, but in the winter I don't think there's an answer unfortunately.

I really don’t think that’s true. DS literally spent the entire day outside running round on Tuesday and was still wild when I got him home.

Mine is always like this after nursery and he only does 2 mornings !! He is hyped and really hard to calm down. I think nursery is a lot for them and very tiring.

It's not some kind of E numbers juice drink before you pick them up getting them hyper is it?

Restraint collapse. He sounds dysregulated which is why he is being silly and not listening.

its tough, my 4yo is exactly the same but she’s at school and most days I can’t even get her out the school gates without a meltdown.

would an early bath work? Or try something with very heavy physical touch - there’s a game where you can wrap them up in a blanket, roll them about and pretend they are a drum or something- lots of heavy patting and stroking. Not in a weird way - just fulfils a sensory need and reconnection. I know it sounds weird but I’m not meaning it to be but some children need firmer pressure.

If they are wild and more activity makes them more wild instead of tired, then what you're seeing is probably dysregulation rather than actually having loads of energy as such.

This might be helpful: https://theotbutterfly.com/sensoryseeker/sensory-processing/

Noting that I read they don’t really watch tv, have you considered doing some screen time for some of that hour? It might hold their attention and give you the calm. I’ve just got my kids a Yoto which has been great for us too, the kids like picking their own stories for it. Also a trampoline is amazing for burning off energy, my four year old could be distracted by a bubble wand or Duplo for hours.

It isn’t my rule, I bloody wish they would! But they aren’t interested.