DS (11) wetting himself.

[CyanHare]

Hi, I posted earlier this year about my DS (11) having accidents. Our gp has referred him to the hospital but we still haven’t received an appointment. It’s getting to the stage where he’s wet more days than he’s dry. He’s in year 6 now and others are starting to notice. He’s really mature about it and will let someone know and get himself changed if he’s wet. Although he puts a brave face on I think it’s starting to get to him. Yesterday he told me some kids in the year below were saying he smelled of fish and needs a nappy. My worry is he’ll still be like this as he starts secondary school next year and are seriously thinking whether it would be better for him to go to a special school where they’ll understand his needs better. Does anyone have any experience of an older child with this problem? I genuinely don’t know where we go from here. I fear this will mess him up mentally.

Finally got an appointment for January. Still no improvement with the accidents he’s still having big floods almost every day. He’s started wearing the pants that were suggested and they’ve helped in not making his wetting as visible. Some good news though.

Hi OP how is your DS? Has his situation improved any?
My 10yo is still having accidents at school and occasionally at home too. Wetting accidents only. Never at night. Also he was diagnosed with dyspraxia earlier this year. Do you know if there's a link?

Contact Eric, the children’s continence charity. Their website is really good and there is a phone line with nurses ego can answer questions.

It is very difficult to be 11 and not dry. Eric will help

Hi. I’d say thinks have improved slightly. DS is 12 now and at secondary school. It seems like the amount of accidents have went down but he is still having them regularly. From what the hospital said those with dyspraxia struggle to sense when they need to go to the toilet so encouraged him to empty his bladder at regular intervals but this seems to have made minimal difference. Sounds similar to your situation. Hope you are both coping ok.

Just wanted to say that our DS (who has autism and borderline dyspraxia) was still wetting himself daily at 11 and 12 as well. Not floods, but noticeable, and he was also soiling daily. At 13 he gradually just stopped doing it. There was no special change or trigger that I'm aware of. It just took him longer to get the hang of it in some way. He is at uni now and the problem has never recurred.

I know this isn't very helpful, but just saying that "light at the end of the tunnel" is possible.

We have dealt with similar.

Cutting out drinks with arrival sweeteners and wearing a watch I got on Amazon that vibrates every two hours, helps a lot.

Hi OP, we had the same issue with DS (and DD to a much lesser extent) and eventually found out it's trigger induced bladder overactivity. Basically that the warning signal of needing is delayed when he consumes certain stimulants. So far we've discovered those to be any kind of diluting/squash (he has water or milk only), any sweets like haribo that have string colourants/loads of additives), chocolate (it contains caffeine) and things high in citric acid (we recently discovered a pizza sauce base we'd used for making out own pizzas) like ketchup. My DS is only 6, so i know this may differ for your DS but it's amazing the difference cutting these things out has made. He wouldn't ever flood his underwear, but it's like he'd just start to drip and was unaware until there was a patch showing. Hopefully this helps as we just figured all this out through lots of Internet reading and trial and error!!