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Two year old - big feelings and bedtime taking forever

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blessedbethe · 25/11/2024 20:19

DS is nearly 2 and a half. Really struggling with his feelings and communication at the moment despite being very good verbally. Lots of head butting and spitting and coughing at us when he’s unhappy which we can deal with… I think! He’s an angel at nursery and difficult for us.

We are really struggling with bedtime. We try to keep to some sort of routine but it can differ a bit each night due to shifts and childcare. We know he thrives on routine but really struggle.
He really kicks off and cries and shows real parental preference which feels horrid for my partner. He gets home late and always wants to do bedtime as he’s not seen him all day but DS only wants me.
He is dropping a nap I think too.

Is it worth doing something like timers to know when he needs to stop playing or move to the next thing, or a sticker chart to get him into a routine? He hates having to stop doing something and move to the the next thing - especially playing or getting out the bath. Do a bath every night to keep consistency? Any tips to instil a routine as we seem to have failed?
I am losing my mind trying to keep my sanity when he’s kicking off so much and drawing bedtime out so much. I want to be a kind parent and I love him so much but he’s really testing my patience.

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UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 25/11/2024 20:23

I'd just go with the parental preference thing, it won't be forever. Maybe you could do it together?

I wouldn't do a bath every night if it's causing problems. Or start it really, really early. Does it tire him out or make him overstimulated when he's already tired?

blessedbethe · 25/11/2024 20:27

He just seems to be constantly overstimulated and overexcited, which is worse when he’s skipped his nap.

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halloumidippers · 26/11/2024 07:45

Many children for many reasons are angels at nursery and awful at home... it's often to do with the fact that you're their safe space. I have no specific advice (sorry) but sending solidarity.
In general, distraction seemed to work at that age. Something atupid like getting a tea towel on your head and playing boo or tickling them or something that's guaranteed a laugh. It sort of breaks the drama cycle

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Lifeglowup · 26/11/2024 08:13

If he is skipping nap then bedtime needs to be much earlier. They need the same amount of sleep as before so night time sleep needs to be longer.

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