Feel like a terrible mum

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Hi guys, I’m(27F) a first time mum to an amazing little girl (5 months)..today when getting her out of the car I have scratched the back of her head on her little bald spot. It looks red and sore and I just feel so awful about it!!! She already hates the car as it is so was already crying when I lifted her out the car seat, then I caught the back of her wee head and the crying intensified!!! so she was definitely hurt:( I know it will heal and she wont remember..but will I remember this feeling forever?

OP the fact that you came on here because yiu felt terrible shows what a good mum you are. It happens to all of us at one time or another. I shut my daughter's hand in a door. I promise this is worse for you then your baby.

Thank you!! I have cleaned it again this morning after her laying on her back sleeping and it looks a bit better today🥲

Thank you!! I absolutely understand mum guilt now😂 it’s the worst feeling in the world!!!

Thank you so much!! It truly is the worst feeling ever☹️ so sad to take her to baby class today I hope no one mentions it or I will defo cry again😂

toddlers are so savage!! I’m the oldest of 3 (huge gaps there’s 12 years and 18 years between me and my sisters) and my middle sister used to beat us up on the daily😂😂

Oh god i used to regularly bump my sons head on the banister cos he was growing so fast and i kept misjudging the distance 😂 not too hard though. He also fell off the bed and i can still hear that bump. Last week i trapped his finger in the door. It happens.

I also have terrible anxiety and guilt like this, and in order to not pass anxiety on to my son i now wait and see what happens when he gets hurt (a fall or whatever it might be) and see how he reacts. And often he will look to me to see if he should panic haha. Because of that, i have had to practise poker face and cheery voice (oh no, why are you head butting the floor silly monkey) and if he cries i act accordingly. Often he doesnt bother! This teaches them to self scan their own body to learn how they feel for themselves. Its really hard but its saved my sanity because somewhere along the way, my anxiety faded on its own.

So, it does get better

I also span him off the egg chair the other week acting daft! Weve just moved home and had no flooring, so bare floors, and i felt awful! I'm normally rapid at grabbing him (as evidenced the other day when his pram tipped to the side on the bus and i grabbed his sleeve and saved him from hitting the floor!) but this time i wasn't quick enough and i felt like a monster cos it was me who span him off! So again with the poker face and i just cringed and had panic face only when he was facing the other way, if that makes sense.

He often scratches the shit out of my face with his wolverine nails and smacks me (currently working on this!) accidentally hurts me often, so he gets revenge haha

You are so right I do defo need to make a conscious effort not to pass it on to her when she gets bigger! Thanks for the kind words I really appreciate it❤️

theres not a parent alive who hasn’t slightly injured their child accidentally, OP. I was telling DS (now 8) the other day, about the time I was trying to popper his vest at the nec when he was a baby and in my exhausted state couldn’t understand why it wouldn’t close… until I realised I’d caught his poor neck in the popper! A full popper imprint in his poor skin! I cried more than him.

Far from traumatized, DS thought it was bloody HILARIOUS.