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7 replies

Helpwanted91 · 24/11/2024 20:17

Hi I'm looking for advice if anyone has any lol. I really dont want my child's father in his life, I feel as tho he brings nothing but negativity. he only sees him once a week, and doesnt attempt to make any effort to see him more and makes excuses such as " im too tired or busy" yet can clear off to his friends once a week every week or to the pub. he doesn't provide anything for him. He's so frugile with money even tho he has a well paid job.
Everything is a waste of money to him like I bought our son his first Halloween costume and sent him a picture the first thing he said was oh he's only going to wear it once what a waste of money. Hes said this about other things too like toys etc. This leads me to think he will deprive our son of other things like school trips etc when he's older or things he needs. He can never say anything positive at all and hes a really selfish pwrson who i dont think he ever has his sons best interests at heart . I dont know if I would have a good enough case if I was to take it to court or not.

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BlitheSpirits · 24/11/2024 20:28

case for what?

YRGAM · 24/11/2024 21:00

Given your child sees their father once per week already, on what grounds will you persuade a judge that the child should be deprived of a relationship with him? That he didn't want you to buy a Halloween costume? I'm sorry but you will be laughed out of any solicitors office in the country. I suggest you work out what the cause of your resentment towards your ex is and deal with that - if it's the money, set up a claim with the CMS. Something wise I read here recently is that your child didn't choose this man to be their father - you did. So stop using nuclear threats and start working on a decent co-parenting relationship

ImJustAGirlInACountrySong · 24/11/2024 21:11

BlitheSpirits · 24/11/2024 20:28

case for what?

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YRGAM · 24/11/2024 21:00

Given your child sees their father once per week already, on what grounds will you persuade a judge that the child should be deprived of a relationship with him? That he didn't want you to buy a Halloween costume? I'm sorry but you will be laughed out of any solicitors office in the country. I suggest you work out what the cause of your resentment towards your ex is and deal with that - if it's the money, set up a claim with the CMS. Something wise I read here recently is that your child didn't choose this man to be their father - you did. So stop using nuclear threats and start working on a decent co-parenting relationship

THIS!

Wigglywoowho · 24/11/2024 21:20

Claim child maintenance.

Ignore every arsehole comment he makes. Send the picture of him in the Halloween costume and a comment about how much fun he had. If he sends a dickhead comment just ignore it. He's trying to get a rise out of you.

You need to suck it up. He's going to be in your life for a very long time. Unless he's a safeguarding risk you've got basically fuck all hope of a court letting you stop contact.

Also, it's in you child's best interests to know his dad, as long as he's not abusive.

ApolloandDaphne · 24/11/2024 21:25

You might not like it but your DS has a right to have a relationship with his DF. Just because you have different approaches to parenting doesn't mean he shouldn't see his child. You have no 'case'. None at all.

TinyMouseTheatre · 25/11/2024 08:18

As others have said you will not get a Judge to stop your Ex from seeing his DS because he does have a relationship with him.

If it's the money that's bothering you then you need to claim CMS. Not sure why you haven't already.

And if his texts are bothering you then consider both of you using a co-parenting app. Alternatively, just stop texting him and only respond to texts that are directly about your DS's care, like the ones that say "Is Saturday convenient" or "What time can I pick him up"?

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