Do you go to both school plays if they do it twice?

[BabyDoge]

DS4 is doing his first nativity this year. It's a two form entry so they're doing two performances, one in the morning and one in the afternoon. Each family only gets two tickets.

I want to get one ticket for the morning show and one for the afternoon, so that DS has someone in the audience for both. DH wants us to go together. I appreciate in families with single parents you don't always have a choice, but I was just wondering what other people do in this scenario?

I agree with you OP. Me and DH always go to separate performances so that DC has someone in the audience both times.

I'd go to one as a couple.

I will be going to both

I think we would do one each as I wouldn't want DD to have no one there for one of them.

If tickets are limited and you can I’d go together.

I’d be tempted to go twice if tickets were unlimited.

We tend to try and go to both so they have someone at each performance. At our school they tend to have the daytime performance at the end of the school day so if someone is there for each performance there will be a parent there to pick up.

Thanks all. DH thinks DS will be fine if we explain, but I think he'd still be looking out for us even if we explained.

There is often leftover available tickets especially for the 1st performance so may be worth putting yourself on list for any remaining tickets on the day

We always go to both dance shows - I typically go to both and my husband and son come to one. My daughter is 11 now but I still think she feels better that someone is there for her.

No, one is bad enough!

No, it’s to accommodate parents and give an option of times. I’ve only ever known one parent attend both.

We go to one each.

If we don’t manage to make that work, I have a standing arrangement with some other mums that we specifically look out for/wave to one another’s kids if someone can’t make the show. That way I can say to him “I won’t be there this afternoon but x’s mum is going to wave to you and take photos to show me”. Seems to help, they know someone is there for them.

Yes, dd1 is now 10 and attends a performing arts academy - we always have someone at every show that she does, and I'll often see her 2 or 3 times. I adore watching her perform.

I would just go together and tell him which one you'll be at. Say he'll see his friends mummies and daddies at the other showing.

Separate performances. But I always look out for the kids I know whose parents aren’t there and give them a wave or thumbs up or well done afterwards.

This is what we are doing. We can't both go to both due to work, so we will go to one each

We go separate as often works better with our work patterns. DD appreciates someone at both and it's not like DH and I would be socialising with each other

One each, you go to one and DH goes to the other if necessary.
I wouldn't be going twice myself.

Usually DH & I go to one performance & PIL go to the other.

Too precious! Part of your child’s development is learning to be independent!

I’ve been to every single performance my kids have done as I agree with you it’s nice that they know someone in the audience. But I’ve always had 4-5 tickets offered. So I’ve gone once with DH and sibling and once with parents or in-laws (who ever is around at the time).

that’s a tough one OP. I think I’d go to one performance with DH as you can smile together at how cute they are. Just explain to your child that you won’t be at the second performance. Or ask school to be on a waiting list of any spares for the second performare. Definitely go to the first as by the second they’re flagging especially if they’ve done a dress rehearsal.

Yes, DH WFH so he'll definitely be able to go to one. We were both going to go to the morning show and I'd arranged for my mum to look after DD, so if we split up I'll have to figure out what to do with her. I think that's what DH is reticent about, "making it more complicated" in his words.

We have done the same as you OP. As we had a smaller child at home so couldn’t both go together, but it worked well 😊

At my kid’s school there wasn’t a choice. 1J parents went to the Wednesday performance, 1K to the Thursday & 1L to the Friday. I once needed to swap as we couldn’t make the Wednesday and we managed it but school acted as though I was asking to bring my pet tiger into the reception class!

We're not allowed for nursery nativity - two tickets per child but they have been drawn on the same piece of paper by the children so you have to go together!