I left my ex 4 years ago and he continues to harrass me through our coparenting app. I have tried all different ways of communication to limit the verbal/emotional abuse but nothing has worked. Right now we strictly communicate through a coparenting app. He struggles with anger management and parenting and often blames me for anything that goes wrong when in comes to our kids. My oldest no longer goes to his dad's for custody time (well just a few days a month). Our middle child is now rebelling to his dad and expressing not wanting to be there either. He is overall just a mean, negative person and my kids are over it. We have been through the court system, we have a custody arrangement. This included him and our oldest accessing counselling but after a couple sessions, the counsellor reported my ex to CPS. The police have also interviewed my kids about my exes behavior towards them. This is all pretty recent but they told me he kind of teters the line between abuse and tough parenting. The thing is he can be manipulative, he is popular in our community but does these things behind closed doors. I'm an introvert and not overly concerned with popularity. So, I know I am viewed negatively by others as my community is very cliquey and I have never really been on that level, and just keep to myself. I weekly get messages like this from today:
Here I am. Fighting with Ryae. “Your fake”. I wonder where they hear that from ? “Mom says bad things about you”. Do you feel bad about the things you say to these boys ? How you manipulate them for your selfish needs ? You’re using them, and fucking them up. You’re trying to destroy their relationship with me and you’re willing to screw them up to do it. It’s embarrassing. Ryae tells me I’m fake after sleeping in my room all night. Pretty weird. Everyone knows it’s you Carrie. The school, the people at hockey the police. You tell them stuff that they don’t remember because of how young they were, in order to make them think bad things. You’re embarrassing yourself and screwing these kids up. And it’s all being documented.
I changed the name of our child but he is referring to our middle child. I really want to figure out a way I don't have to read this type of message. I can't cut off all contact as we sometimes do need to talk about the kids, although this is rarely and I mostly just receive this nonsense. I have tried all sorts of boundaries. I just want it to stop. Any ideas?