So, long story short, I have a 10 month old, when he was newborn we would visit my (now ex) partners parents every weekend, for hours at a time they would hold him and make it difficult for me as a new mum. I told them anxious when I can’t have him when he cries (because I soothe him instantly he rarely gets upset), nothing changed, (ex) partner asked if we could have him back when cries, nothing changed they just started taking him outside away from us, long story short I was starting to dread and get really bad anxiety from visiting and I ended up texting his dad bluntly that it doesn’t feel how much they take over with baby when visit, they cut me off and partner dumped me. I offered through (ex) partner for them to meet up to see baby multiple times and said no, they’ve now not seen him since he was 3 months old. I don’t want to send him there when stopped breastfeeding nor am I comfortable with him going there to sleep. Baby has never slept at his dads or left me apart from when I go do food shop or get nails done he will be with my mum or if his dads visiting his dad. Am I within reason to deny him going there until baby is old enough to tell me he wants to now? I’ve tried to keep their contact but denied multiple times and now baby doesn’t know who they are. What’s annoying me is I can feel they are all expecting to have him round there without me when breastfeeding done but I feel very very skeptical to allow this when they’ve put me through hell for sticking up for my own baby(baby was getting upset to the point he was holding breathe when they brought him back inside and I kept getting told to go back in he’s fine when they saw me coming out to check on him), what would u guys do in my position