Did I just forget all of this?! Newborn sleep hell!

[TeainanIV]

1 week in to the newborn bubble and I don't know how I managed to completely forget (or rather, repress) the endless sleepless nights 😴. I genuinely have no memory of how long I had to hold my first DD through the night before she would sleep in her own bassinet?! Now that DD2 is here, she point blank refuses to sleep anywhere other than on me or DH - and convincing her to sleep for long stretches on DH is tough as I'm breastfeeding! She just wants to be near my boobs at all hours of the day and night and screams bloody murder if we attempt to pop her down anywhere else! It's a good job she's the scrummiest little girl otherwise I'd be really falling out with her!!

Just got reassurance, although I'm fairly sure I know the answer to this, this is all very standard newborn behaviour?! At what point would you expect a newborn to be able to do some portion of time sleeping in their bassinet/next to me? I genuinely have no memory of when we first achieved this with my DD1!!

All very normal, although it sucks! Let other people help you whenever they offer, and ask if they don't! DD was a sod for sleeping on us too. I can't really remember when she slept apart - the haze is real!

I do remember that around 4 months I decided I was too tired to keep getting up and we switched to cosleeping.

@PlantDoctor thank you!! I feel like I've no recollection of when my DD1 slept in her own space! Just soaking in all the newborn snuggles - I love watching her pull the funniest faces after she's had a feed 🥰. Reminding myself we got there in the end with DD1s sleep in the end - she was HORRENDOUS!

I think it’s by design. Really. Why on earth would any of us go on to have more than one if we did remember? 😁

On the plus side though, I do still remember that it just gets better and better.

Congratulations.

@MrsSkylerWhite this is very true 😂!! Thank you, she is a beauty and her big sister is so smitten with her 🥰

Can you look up safe co sleeping ? So handy especially if bf
If you have a spare room kick hubby out and get a set up sorted and get some shut eye. Currently up feeding my 3rd, 3 weeks old x

I remember. I don't remember details, but I remember the endless nights and the reflux and loneliness and the tiredness, and feeling like I'd ruined my life.

I have one child 😂

I remember it got much better around 13/14 weeks. It wasn't the promised 12 weeks, but it was fairly soon after.

@mrssunshinexxx no spare room unfortunately! I have deleted co-sleeping I'm just always nervous when they're so small. But not ruled it out! We've been taking it in stints so far, it just usually ends up mine gets cut short as she wants feeding. I've dug out my pump though I was just holding off using it whilst my supply was coming in - but desperate times mean I'll be pumping sooner rather than later!

I agree with previous poster. I believe we're programmed to forget how bad childbirth and sleep deprivation is, otherwise everyone would have one child families 😂

Congratulations on your new baby OP.

@SnapdragonToadflax aah sending solidarity and love!! I may not remember the constant wake ups - but my first DD has a dairy and egg allergy (she's now 3.5 years old) and she used to scream the place down day and night with acid reflux - we're on high alert now with DD2 for any allergy signs!!

@BilboBlaggin oh definitely our body's form of self-preservation!!! Thank you! 🥰

Unfortunately it’s normal. Every baby is different as to how long, my first took 12 weeks to be able to sleep a bit in her crib, my second took a month.

Congratulations! You are probably noticing it more because you have a dc that you care for. If you only had the new baby to concentrate on sleepless nights are a little easier. But when you're running around all day after an older dc the sleepless nights are harder.

What kept me sane was going to bed at 9 and leaving dh with baby . He brought them in for next feed and then went to bed himself. Those few hours when l was not responsible for the baby meant l got a decent sleep. The rest of the night l was on high alert so not restful. But l did co-sleep very early on as its all about survival.