Parenting a 4 year old

[LAsmummy2020]

I really don't know how to put this but here I am, I've struggled with my mental health since having my girl, was diagnosed with PND & PNA when she was 3 months old. I have managed to over come a lot of obstacles and was getting on so well. Recently she's changed and just doesn't listen to me period, won't tidy her toys, refuses to take any instruction from me and hits me and tells me I'm not a fun mum, just feel myself having a very short fuse and it often results in me shouting which I'm very ashamed of and really feel like I'm failing her and myself by raising my voice at my little girl, I really don't know the point of this post but please if anyone has any thing to say that would help me or perhaps give me some examples of different approaches I'd be very grateful.

I've contacted her health visitor to ask for some guidance and maybe just someone understanding to speak to and confide in.

I have a 4 year old little girl who drives me round the bend. Snapping sounds totally normal.
I find generally rather than rising to shouting which just winds her up even more I just go overboard with kindness and praise and she responds to that so well. I know there's a time and a place not that (not when hitting)
Tidying up is also a joke, and near on impossible.
Take a deep breath, take things slow, pick your battles, you are doing great.

I have a 4 year old and they are really hard work. Don't be too hard on yourself. I have lost my temperature many times (shouting) and always feel terrible, but they can be absolutely impossible to reason with. Just tell yourself it's a phase on repeat until it passes! Mine alternates between saying they love me and they hate me. It's just their undeleveloped brain and will get easier!

No advice but sympathy. I also have a 4 year old girl who is the same… it’s rough

I found 4 the toughest age so far. I found the book How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen really helpful. Also the Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read.

Also I'm really liking the Calm Parenting Podcast at the moment. He talks a lot about older kids, but I'm finding a lot of the strategies really working for my younger child. I also like the fact that the host acknowledges the fact that you might feel like you really want to shout at your kids, and that parenting is difficult and frustrating. In that respect I find it a lot more down to earth than most parenting podcasts.

Thanks everyone who's taken time to reply. I appreciate it and I little relief to know I'm not alone. I Will look up any suggestion made today. ❤️