Please be kind, I just tested positive for pregnancy and am elated but my head is in a whirl..
I am 32, DH is 34. We have been married for 9 years and own a small 2 bed flat in London (mortgage 1282). We have been married for 9 years and were using withdrawal for 8 out of 9 years. Started ttc in August 2023, no results. Underwent investigations and referred to fertility clinic.
During that time DH faced a lot of stress/politics at work and his job doesn't feel stable, he has been job searching but he still has his job, it pays £75k per annum and he gets 4071 after tax. He has also been signed off sick for stress following an occupational health review suggested by HR (history of childhood epilepsy)
We have savings of 57k in total (though 27k are in savings account in my home country).ĺ
Unfortunately 3 weeks ago I was made redundant with 3 months notice pay , it was a shock to me but I have been job searching with some interviews. Previously was on 46k so my pay out was over 9k. We can live on DH's current salary without dipping into savings though it feels scary at the moment.
Anyway by that point I was under investigations and had been having virtually unprotected sex for 9 years with no baby.
I find out now I am pregnant. I understand I can still get a job and don't need to disclose that I am pregnant, how can I claim maternity allowance. I think it's a bit of a miracle and it's strange I have been trying so hard but only got pregnant once I am off work. Perhaps it was the stress.
If any mumsnetters have been in a similar situation any advice would be great.
Another minor issue is that my second bedroom has small caged pets in it (they are around 2 years old and 3 months and they have a lifespan of 3-4 years).. do I need to give them up. I think I could downsize their massive 1.5m cage to a 1 m cage and fit in a baby changing table (there is a single bed in the room plus my desk which dh is unwilling to get rid of). I guess cot would go in our room we have a space for that and think about what to do once baby needs their own rook which would be 15 months from now at least. As to why I designed my living space this way, well they were rescue pets and I wasnt ttc then plus was unsure of how long it would take (plus had suspicions of infertility).