Hi I’ve posted this in a different thread think it was the wrong one. I’m looking for some guidance or advice from anyone who may have been in this situation or similar. My oldest son who’s 11 nearly 12 moved to his dad’s around 2 years ago it wasn’t an easy transition as we went through the courts and they decided he should stay with me and his younger brother but Everytime he came back from his dads he’d cause problems or lie about things because he wanted to live with his dad. I agreed to him living with his dad but he comes down every other weekend and in the half terms that was agreed in court. Since he’s been with his dad our relationship has broken down his dad has nothing nice to say about me and isn’t a very nice person period. My youngest son comes home from weekend visits from his dad’s saying his dad and my oldest son are saying bad things about me. Also my youngest son doesn’t want to go to his dads and refused to come out of his classroom on Friday when his dad picked him up but I still send him as it’s in a court order and he’s only 7 so no one will listen to what he wants my youngest doesn’t have a great relationship with his dad because he didn’t see him for nearly 5 years of his life his dads choice but then when he came back into our lives all this happened. My oldest son is now saying he doesn’t want to come down anymore and that he hates me. I’m really unsure what to do and how I can try and rebuild my relationship with him. I really don’t want to have to go back to court as this is my oldest saying he doesn’t want to come to my house anymore but I haven’t seen him now for weeks and his dad is making excuses when I’m trying to put things in place to rebuild our relationship.