Please tell me what your 3 month old’s sleep is like

[Ellax]

Mine wakes frequently throughout the night. I breastfeed and we cosleep. I’ve tried transferring them into nextome crib, she wakes after 5 mins. I’ve given up and just have her in the bed with me.

a friend with a baby the same age sleep through. HOW? How can one baby sleep 12 hours straight and mine wakes every 1-3 hours? theirs is formula fed. Apparently that doesn’t make a difference?

please tell me how your 3 mo sleeps! Xx

Mine is 3 months and exactly the same as you (mine is ebf). She wakes up usually 3 times in the night and I feed each time and do 1 nappy change at her first wake up which is usually around midnight. I’ve found the last couple of weeks her sleep has got worse and she’s been waking up every 1.5 hours sometimes even just after 1 hour plus taking several attempts to get into her crib. It’s very normal to have frequent wake ups at this age. It’ll get better in time they’re still sooo young - they spent 9 months inside us getting everything they need instantly and have only been in the real world for 12 weeks.Formula feeding does make a difference, it’s denser so fills them up for longer. As my mum says - beware of the braggers!

When my DD was 3 months she would wake up every 3 hours on the dot. My DS was breastfed and all over the show it depended on his mood, you just sort of have to go with it unfortunately it’s a rough time but gets easier. Comparing is no good I did it and felt like I was doing something wrong which you absolutely aren’t! We ended up getting sleepyhead which is really not recommended at all!

My youngest woke every hour for the first 11 months of her life and it nearly killed me.

@bakewellbride I had one of those...
DD is now 2 and still wakes in the night. She's slowly growing out of it but it's seriously hard to function properly on nights when she's up 2-3 times.

In every other aspect she's amazing.

Hang in there OP! It's hard, but it does get better!

Mine has just this week started sleeping for 5 or 6 hours some nights (goes down around 8 or 9pm). However, after that long stretch she will then wake again every 2.5/3 hours for a feed. Before that she was going about 3/4 hours between feeds at night.

Honestly I haven't done anything in particular, I just got very lucky and she kind of got herself into a routine. I do use the Huckleberry app to track her day time naps and try to get most of her calories in during the day.

My first would do 10pm-7am with no wakes, she sucked her thumb which I think helped a lot with settling. My second would go the same stretch without a feed but needed his dummy popped back in every night at 3am. They were formula fed. I know I know that all the research says it doesn’t make a difference but purely anecdotally all the FF babies I know were doing at least an 8 hour stretch by that age whilst all the EBF babies were waking frequently.

Both of mine slept through (11pm-7am) from 12 weeks. They were/are* both bottle fed though if that makes a difference at all.

*Youngest is 5.5 months.

Ebf and therefore co slept with both my kids and neither slept longer than 6 hrs straight until they turned 1ish.

These rare babies who sleep through so young are maddening to hear about however I really do believe formula fed babies sleep longer periods because they consume a larger volume of milk per feed. All the ff babies I know wake far less frequently compared to bf ones.

Frequent waking, i read, is actually nature's survival mechanism to help protect babies from SIDS (ironic i know when it makes parents feel dangerous tired) however that is why safe co sleeping is fundamental to ebf on demand through the nights.
Hang in there, it gets better x

I have two kids 3 and 10 months.
At 3mo my eldest woke hourly to 2 hourly and almost exclusively co slept with me.
Second at 3mo was sleeping 12-13 hours solid in his cot in our room. It didn’t last though and he’s up 1-4 times a night now.

Both breastfed, not treated any different. You’re not doing anything wrong. There’s no rods for your back. It gets better (then possibly a bit worse again) but overall better.

Yep, I agree. I only know of one EBF baby who sleeps through like my daughter.

Not to say there aren't others of course!

When mine was that age he was waking up at least 3 times a night. Didn't sleep through until he was 15 months old. Oh and he was formula fed

I have 2 children, both breastfed and coslept. Eldest was a more restless sleeper and was up every 1-2 hours until age one. Youngest is 8 months old and can do 2-3 hours at night, however he can go up to 4.5 hours between daytime feeds.

My two closest friends and I have 6 children between us who have all been breastfed into toddlerhood and out of our children, 3 were sleeping through from 4-6 months. I know it’s a very small sample size but just wanted to make the point that breastfeeding doesn’t always equal poor sleep.

My son is 4.5 months now and other than (what could be his) sleep regression (not all babies will get/some might call it something else) he has slept 10 hours straight from about 3 months. Either wakes once for a feed and straight back to sleep or doesn’t wake at all. He’s ebf and sleeps in a crib next to my side of the bed. We feel very very lucky - the other mums I know with babies similar age aren’t experiencing this.

Not to brag, my 3 month EBF is sleeping 8-10 hours a night. She comes to bed with us at 11 and sleeps right through.

My first born still sometimes wakes in the night and he's almost 3! He was still having 1/2 night feeds beyond his first birthday, definitely up multiple times at 3 months.

All babies are different, both of mine EBF. I have heard formula fed babies sleep better but I have a bf baby who sleeps well so I'm not sure how valid that argument is.

They do sleep eventually, I promise!

My daughter slept 11/12 hours at 3 months and was bottle fed. Her dad and his wife have a 3 month baby and she said he wakes every 2 hours bang on for a bottle. Definitely a shock to her dad's system. Her brother is a big boy though a hungry boy. Loves his grub. Xxx

Ours slept through 7-7 from 12 weeks (of course there have been plenty of ups and downs since then - sleep regressions, illness, teething but generally he sleeps through.

he was formula fed and I do think it makes a difference, so much so that I’m not even going to try to breastfeed my second. Trying last time messed with my mental health so much, there is still a lot of shame around it. I have no idea if it’s actually the formula that did it - I guess I’ll find out when the second arrives.

we had our first in a love to dream swaddle which made a massive difference. When we tried a normal sleeping vet with arms out he woke up every hour. Might be worth a try? We also worked really hard with putting him down in the next to me crib (to give ourselves a break!) we did bedtime routine - bath, pjs, bottle and then put him in the crib. If he cried we did the pick up-out down thing until he fell asleep and he just gradually slept longer in there.

I do know a few friend who breastfed and sleeping through took a bit longer but it did happen eventually. I’m sorry I can’t offer any advice about breastfeeding x

Our DD woke hourly for the first year of her life, EBF. Of the seven families in our NCT group, just two slept decent stretches and both were EBF.

Today, age 22 months, our toddler now sleeps through consistently, and those early 'better' sleeps are up frequently.

It's so normal at this age for babies to wake regularly, and comparison really is the thief of joy. Keep going - promise it will pass!

3 wakes a night sounds good to me OP

I distinctly remember my daughter was waking hourly at this age. It was a lot easier when I started putting her in bed with me, but I was pretty broken by that point

Having number 2 soon and I'm co sleeping/bed sharing from the start this time

Also, waking is good, it's healthy IMO particularly at this age

Dr James McKenna wrote a book called Safe Infant Sleep and he does write in there that frequent waking is healthy and he would be more concerned about the babies that aren't waking regularly

Interestingly he also doesn't recommend swaddling, which I did with my first, but when he explains why I actually really regretted swaddling her and won't be doing it this time

they spent 9 months inside us getting everything they need instantly and have only been in the real world for 12 weeks.

This gets said to me a lot. But it’s equally applicable to all babies. The babies who are happy to be out of human hands and lie in a crib for hours also spent nine months inside.

Why will some go down in a crib and others don’t? It’s so frustrating.