Book recommendations - happy mum, happy child

[Singlemumhereicome]

I'm looking for a book to give the father of my child to help him understand that how he treats me has an impact on our daughter. I've found studies that explain that a happy mum has a positive impact on the child's future and I need to find a book that I can give to him to help him understand. Does anyone have any recommendations?

Sorry if this sounds harsh but would you better just talking to him about this?

I'd hazard a guess that the type of man who needs to be told to treat the mother of his child well, isn't going to sit down and read a book about it....

Are you separated?

OP, this sounds worrying. Why aren't you happy?

He doesn’t need a book. He won’t read a book. It’s logic anyway. And more than that, it doesn’t matter what science says (I’m a scientist), it matters that you say you value it. If you say you need x, y and z to be happy, assuming what you are asking for is reasonable and safe, and he isn’t engaging, it’s simply because he doesn’t care and respect you enough. That’s about his underlying values and your relationship, not about his lack of knowledge about the science.

What is it you are saying you need? I’d focus on that specifically. If he’s not engaging (and it’s a reasonable thing, not like you want to go smoke crack), then you need to take care of yourself and your child first. Make yourself happy.

If he needs to be told this, you need to leave him alone

*leave him

A decent partner doesn’t need a book telling him to not behave like a bastard o the mother of his child. I’d suggest a frank conversation and couples counselling.