Just smacked DD (2yrs 6mnth)

[milliec]

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go and make yourself a nice cup of tea and get over it

the alternative is a child who bites you and do you really want that?

reply to her, yes and mummy was wrong to do it, but you were wrong to bite my arm. lets try to be lovely to each other for the rest of the day. give her a huge cuddle, and then later on, at bedtime tonight, say to her how lovely she has been, but she must never bite, as it hurts the person who got bitten very much, just like her bottom hurt when mummy smacked it, and it is a a naughty silly girl who bites anyway,not lovely little princesses!!
not sure if this will help, but worth a try eh?
xx

I dont smack at all but I remember once when DS was about the same age and he punched me so hard in the nose that it bled and my eyes watered and had this deep urge to hit him back. I didnt but I think that when you have been hurt sometimes instinct kicks in a bit. Maybe that is what happened here.

I bet I would have done the same! I smacked my DD once when she was a similar age and ran towards a busy road leaving me to abandon my newborn in his pram to grab her then sending the pram towards the road. I smacked her without a second thought and didn't regret it. Not done it since.

Don't feel guilty you only gave her a quick smack after she did something that hurt you and when you had told her not to do it.
You diddn;t beat her, just tell her you smacked her because she bit you and then give her a cuddle.

being bitten is a real shock and can make any of us react badly

That's really nice and very wise Matildax.
Milliec - the fact that you feel bad shows your not a bad mummy IMO. Most of us lose it at some point especially when our kids appear to hurt us deliberately.
I have a very bitey , pully, scratchey child who only seems to attack me.

and if franny the super-softie says that, it must be true.

seriously, she's right, you had a big shock, you yelped and skelped. just make sure you both apologise and move on.

I've only smacked dd once (shes 8 now) and it was when she was 2 and sank her teeth into my leg when she was having a paddy.

I felt truly truly awful at the time and was convinced I'd end up being a horrid parent who lost my temper all the time.

Now I realise that it didn't set me up on the path of doom(!) being bitten is a horrid pain that bypasses reason. So don't be harsh on yourself, remind yourself its because you love her so much that you feel so bad and then give yourself a break.

Don't feel bad I'd have probably shrieked like a banshee which is probably 10 times worse.

I have done exactly the same when bitten. It happened before I could even think - a little lash out. Of course I felt bad at the time - as you do - but, like BadKitten says, it really doesn't mean you're going to make a habit of it.

All will be forgotten in a very little while. Your dd knows you love her to bits.

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