Ex husband and I have been separated for over two years. Two children aged 2 + 4. I have sole care of them and he has various mental health issues and was (and often still is) very abusive to me. Sees them once a week for a couple of hours with me present, doesn't really do any active parenting, just takes lots of selfies with them and then goes back home again.
Eldest had his nasal flu vaccine at school today, I had discussed it with EXH beforehand and while he is quite anti-vax he didn't outright say he disagreed with him having it done. He said "you're damned if you do, damned if you don't" and when I spoke with him on phone yesterday he said he didn't mind. Anyway I said I'd better book our youngest in for his too, and he became very angry, saying he will not agree to it, he is so young and it will ruin his immune system for the rest of his life, said he's ill all the time so obviously has a weak immune system (he's not ill all the time, just contracts the normal amount of toddler coughs and colds), said the spray will "go into his brain". Then started ranting about it being a depopulation agenda, 9/11 was an inside job, world war 2 wasn't real - it was "just a family dispute", the current conflicts on the news are all fake. Etc. He said he's "done his research" and is very passionate about it.
I don't know where I stand now. Although he has zero involvement with day to day parenting, obviously he maintains his parental rights and as such has an input into decisions like this. Does anyone know what I can do so far as my youngest son receiving his flu vaccine?
Many thanks