I don't know what to do.

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I don't know if any other mums feel the same way and have any advice but when my 5 year old is at school I feel completely lost, she just had 2 weeks off school for Halloween, although it was non stop, stressful etc I was happy, busy, in a good routine and now she's back at school, I feel lost, useless and hopeless, my whole routine has gone, now all I do is either lay in bed all day or sit on the sofa untill I need to pick her up. I need help x

I have this too. I have never understood parents looking forward to the end of the summer holidays’csntvwait fo the kids to go back to school!’ What? I love being with my kids! Maybe you should do something for you though. Do you enjoy anything in particular? I know it can be easy to lose sight of what you like/your identity outside of being mummy.

You need a job.

It sounds like you need something to do. Clean the house, get a volunteer role, start running, retrain, get a job.

I am currently off work with cancer and while it’s nice to see my dc before and after school, I make the most of the days. I exercise, I clean, I cook so no rushing around before evening activities, prep after school snacks, read, run errands, etc

I feel lost, useless and hopeless, my whole routine has gone, now all I do is either lay in bed all day or sit on the sofa untill I need to pick her up.

Are you depressed? Because it sounds like it. You really need to address this because their childhoods are short and life is long. Work, hobbies, volunteering, exercise, pets? What did you love before children?

I love seeing my kids but I love sending them back to school now they are a bit older 😅

In fairness, I work from home so I do the school run and see them when they are home; when I was for a few months working FT in the office before I went off on mat leave again, it was absolutely grueling and I badly missed my DC.

I think this is a bit extreme though, as that situation was the other way round, as in I was the one out knowing she was at home without me. I think you need to just appreciate the quiet time.

Would it help if you focus on things for your DC? So absolutely maximising your alone time to plan and prepare things so that you're making the absolute best of your time together?

Seriously though my God try and appreciate it. You are a human being in your own right!

Sounds like you struggle to be an individual human being rather than a mother. Have you looked for part time work, a hobby group, studying or volunteering? What do you plan to do with your life when your child is older?

If you can find a job that fits those hours that can help, or as others have said find your identity that isn't based around being a mother and work on hobbies, fitness, volunteering, and so on.

Totally this

Home Ed. I couldn't bare my daughters being in school ..away from me.. spending days with strangers

I home educated them.. same as they do with their children.
Although one Grandchild is now at Uni and one at college.
Others still home educated.

You need a job, or to get to an exercise class, start C25K go for a walk, potter in the garden. Prep dinner and do the chores so you can have quality time when she returns.

You need to find a 'you' outside of parenting because you only have about 10 years before they go and do their own things.

Crikey. I feel the complete opposite. I find a whole week with my DD quite suffocating.

That said I have loads going on at the minute, potential new job, hobbies, new house.

Get a job. I took don't like being without mine but I work school hours and absolutely love the holidays with them. Unlike my mother who did not work and couldn't wait for the holidays to be over.