FaceTime or not to facetime

[KayP107350]

Husband and I are going away for a long weekend (Friday to Monday) without kids for the first time.
We have two children just turned 2(f) 6months(m).
They are staying with my in laws. PIL have said to us not to FaceTime when we are away as it will just upset the kids.

Can I ask everyone’s experiences, is this correct?

It’s the first time I’ve been away from them for more than 1 night, my daughter at the moment gets upset if I pop out to the car to get something as if I’m going to leave her forever (separation anxiety) which makes me feel guilty going.

I just don’t want her to think we’ve dropped her at her grandparents and abandoned her. I also don’t want to FaceTime if it will upset her, I just don’t know what to do for the best really.

If I was babysitting then I’d rather you not call the kids but I’d be happy to talk to you after they’d gone to bed.

I think it's better that you don't call and I say that as someone who would really want to. It will make them cry and you won't be able to fix it. If they're already distressed, it's different.

I think it would be different if they were 8 & 6, but no definitely not a young toddler and a baby. They don’t understand and it will upset them. Fwiw I’ve done a lot of travel since mine were both 1 and I’ve never FaceTimed ever when away (eldest is 11 now). I send photos and sometimes videos, but I’d rather them get on with what they are doing and Dh or whoever is looking after them can show them the photos at a time when they’re happy to look at them (not upset about missing me).