8 weeks pregnant with 2.5 year old - struggling

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Feeling nauseas all day everyday and having a 2.5 year old, I’m feeling nervous about coping with two children.
my 2.5 year old has become really challenging, won’t listen, tantrums, constant whinging/crying and all I want to do is lie in bed. Has resulted me to tears today. How will I cope with two children 😩
Has anyone else felt like this?

I don’t have any advice sorry but just wanted to let you know that I’m in the same situation! 9 weeks pregnant with an almost 2 year old. I’m exhausted!!!!! You are not alone and we will get through this! Hormones peak at week 9, so I’m just telling myself this is the worse part and it will soon get better!

Yes. My toddler was 19 months when I was I weeks old, but the first trimester was the worst... I was feeling sick and so tired. Went to bed every night at 8 (after my toddler fell asleep) and slept until 7 am. every single night.

It got better after the tird trimester, when the tiredness and nausea stopped.

Coping wise, I felt the pregnancy was much harder - it was easier when the baby was here.
We prepared as much as we could - by the time my toddler was 2 years and 3 months, was fully potty trained (including nightime), and she got a single bed instead of the cot.
We got her a doll so she could "practice" the nappy change and feeding. We read loads of books about being a big sister and welcoming a little brother.
She ended up being a lovely sister, very gentle and loving his -now- 4 months old baby brother. We try to get her as involved as we can with the baby, and so far, no jealousy issues.

Ive just had my second (4 weeks now) my other DS is 2. I found being pregnant with a toddler so much harder than having a newborn and a toddler.
The 2nd trimester was a lot better for me but it did get harder again around 32 weeks just because of the physical side of lifting a toddler especially if they are throwing a tantrum.
Don't be afraid to use TV. It's not forever. My 2 year old is already having much less again now baby is here.
I also second getting toddler out of a cot if you haven't already. I couldn't lift mine over the cot bars by the end so had to move to a bed.

I've got a 2y3m old and I'm 6 months. The days I work (from home) I lie down every lunchtime and the w day a week I have her is a massive challenge. I am winding down the fun days out etc (even though she's a nightmare at home) because she refuses to walk anywhere or go in the pram and I find myself losing patience, and I never used to be like that. It's bloody hard. At home my 2yo has never been one to play with toys for long and constantly whinges for the TV. I try to hold off and then just give in but I'm trying not to beat myself up about it.
Also I still have sickness - just get medication if you haven't already. It's hugely not worth it to try and brave it out, I did in my first pregnancy but got the drugs early this time as I can't be losing any more energy!

I'm 6 months pregnant with an 18 month old, and Jesus Christ I am hating it. I had debilitating sickness till I was 17 weeks pregnant, probably the worst time of my life. I signed off work and my son was in nursery 4 days a week so it helped. Still so hard the rest of the time though.

My sickness has mostly gone now and I have my son alone on Mondays, I'm finding it so difficult that I wonder if I am just weak minded or something. I dread my day alone with him now, it's just so physical cause everything is a battle. Nappy changes, getting into car seat, pram etc. I feel a lot more pregnant at the same time as my first pregnancy, and I definitely don't have this burst of energy I'm supposed to get in second trimester. When I was sick for the first few months and in a really dark place I genuinely felt scared about having another child, cause you can't imagine feeling normal again? You will, I'm much more excited to have another baby now. I'm really looking forward to not being pregnant anymore

Sorry this isn't much help, but just want you to know you're not alone and being pregnant with a toddler is horrendous quite frankly. This too shall pass

I have 4 DC. Personally, while its not easy juggling toddlers and babies, i find it much easier than juggling toddlers while pregnant. You feel tired and rubbish in a way that you just won't once baby is here. Soooooo much screen time when I was pregnant... But hasn't been necessary once baby arrives.

Thank you so much for your comments and reassurance, it’s just so rubbish feeling so sick constantly, I can’t imagine actually being sick!
@genesis92 Thank you for the reassurance that I will feel normal again as like you said, you really feel as though you won’t! I think that’s what is getting me down the most.
my toddler only goes to nursery twice a week so I spend 3 days alone with him which is hard.
thanks for all of you guys saying I am not alone too, makes me feel not so weak!
@TinyTeachr so much screen time, but I think I’m just in survival mode at the moment and wishing for 12 weeks in the hope I feel a bit better then. It’s so different to your first isn’t it, as you just don’t have the time to relax, sleep, rest etc. 4DC tells me it definitely gets better!

Don't forget your little one will be much older by the time the older one comes and the behaviour will settle down by then. The main reason I'm not going for #4 is because of the pregnancy. I've got 3 under 5 and honestly the pregnancy with the little one is so much harder than when they're here. You'll get yourself into a routine and love it