Autism 3 year old

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Can anyone give me advice please for suspected autism for toddler. She's always had a very sensitive nature, terrible sleeper, can't cope with any transitions, extreme fussiness with food, very frequent meltdowns which are getting worse. Also highly intelligent and can be social though seems to just rob kids yous from them of late. Seems to have sensory sensitivities to clothes, water etc. Walks on tip toes. Has met milestones with regards to speech and walking..Am i on track looking into this further?

It certainly sounds like a lot of autism red flags there. I agree you need to look into getting a diagnosis. In the meantime, whether she has autism or not, some strategies that help with autistic kids might help her as she has those behaviours now. I don't have any specific resources but there is a lot out there.

Good luck, it sounds like hard work at the moment.

The signs you've listed and being on track with milestones and especially speech makes me think more a sensory processing disorder, not necessarily autism although both do have many similarities.
It would be worth investigating further

Thank you both for input. Can you share any more on spd? I read somewhere most people with autism have this but it's not a diagnosable condition? Am I right here?

It's really complex. Being on track with physical and communication milestones is not unusual for girls with autism so that doesn't rule it out. This is a common misconception. They can sometimes be quite exceptional in these areas - high functioning autism (what used to be called Asperger's). I'd speak to your GP for a referral to your appropriate local team for assessment. There are some good books on this eg A Parents Guide to High functioning ASD.

I know a few years ago SPD was not diagnosed alone but that might have changed. There's a book on it called 'The out of sync child', I read it years ago. To be honest I think wait and see what a professional says, you'll exhaust yourself reading up on conditions that might be irrelevant. For now just focus on the sensory issues she has and how to minimise meltdowns.