Stressed and feeling guilty for feeling stressed

[Secondtimemum24]

I’m feeling so overwhelmed!
mum of 8 month old join going back to work in 2 weeks I really don’t wanna be leaving my baby I feel like I’m gonna miss so much and I feel so guilty!!!
I struggle to keep on top of the house and washing as it is I dunno how I’m suppose to do it when I go back, my bubs doesn’t really enjoy independent play so she cry’s a lot if i try get things done.
I feel anxious leaving her in her cot at night so I go to bed when she does.
and then leave the housework that’s progressed in the day to do the following day. Which is fine but going back to work I just feel so overwhelmed and stressed but feel like I get judged for being stressed because there’s women out there doing it with no feeling like me I’ve cried all day today just at the feeling of being stressed out and snapped at my partner who helps as much as he can 😩

Don't feel guilty. It's an extremely stressful time. Most women find this time very hard. As for the house stuff throw every resource you have into it if you can. Get a cleaner if you can. Plan and organise as much as you can and divide labour now to avoid arguments later. Buy loads of meals suitable for freezing, buy an extra freezer if you need to. If you have 4 frozen meals that gets you through to the weekend. 16 meals purchased now will get you through the first month back, think of it that way. Have a laundry system agreed with DH. What days you wash, who folds etc. Maybe spend 20 mins on a Sunday getting clothes for the week to make mornings less stressful. The trick is organising, i was not a very organised person before DC and found that element difficult.

It might help to write this out or do excel or something to have a visual, if it fits on the schedule you know it fits into your day.

Don't feel anxious.

What can you outsource either to a person or a machine?
Slow cooker
Rice Cooker
Soup maker
Dish washer
Tumble dryer

If you already use these things can you better use the timer function so washing is loaded the night before comes on jn time to finish so you can hang it out when you wake up, or time it to be done when you return home?

A sling to wear baby, or have her in a high chair whilst you get on singing and entertaining her as you go.