First time mum just looking for advice

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For context my daughter was born in July and weighed 7lb 6oz and was on the 50th centile line.
Since her birth she has put on 4.54kg & now weighs 17lb 3oz at 13 weeks & is now sitting on the 98th centile line. At first my health visitor was accusing me of over feeding her as she was putting too much weight on way too quickly, however since yesterdays visitor she’s now realised that due to my daughter being extremely tall for her age she’s not actually putting too much weight on as both her height and weight are sitting on the 98th centile. She believes she just had a massive growth spurt but it’s gotten me worried that everyone around me is mentioning how her current weight is too much for a 3 month old baby and more so for a 7-12 month old baby.
Shes currently drinking 6oz of milk every 3ish hours and is sleeping through the night & after being referred to a baby clinic to double check her weight they’ve told me to just continue to feed my daughter when she wants feeding (ie looking out for the feeding queues of eating her hand, turning her head, crying etc) & so we’ve just continued to do that. We’ve tried her on hungrier baby formula to see if that would make her fuller for a longer time but the milk doesn’t agree with her.
We've started laying her on her playmat so she’s kicking about & have found she’s moving around a lot.
The health professionals have said my daughter is rather advanced to say she’s only three months & so have no concerns with the fact she’s meeting all the development milestones.
I’m just wondering if there’s anything I’m doing wrong or is there anything I can be doing so she isn’t putting too much weight on so quickly. I know it sounds really stupid but I’m worried I’m doing something wrong especially being a first time mum.

Sorry to hear your health visitor worried you. Your DD sounds like she’s thriving as she should. You’re doing it all right - she’s just a bigger baby. I have 2 and my youngest is 7 months now and much bigger than my eldest was at his age. Don’t work yourself up about it OP, a baby won’t over feed or starve.

My ds was always on the 98th centile, I always had comments about how big he was, he wasn’t ever ‘fat’ just a solid baby if that makes sense. He’s now a teenager and 6ft something, towers over me and is slim but with good muscle definition.
Unless you’re feeding your baby mashed up salty adults food like pizza I wouldn’t worry.

DN was always on the 98th for both height and weight. She's always been beautifully in proportion.

I'm sorry that your HV failed to take your DD's height into consideration and worried you unnecessarily

Babies come in all different shapes and sizes. A taller baby is usually going to weigh more. I have 22 month old twins and my boy twin started out as the smaller one but now he is a good 8 pounds heavier than his sister. She is very petite and very small and always been under on her chart. She eats the same as him (if not more) etc. she's never been drastically under but maybe a couple pounds under but never got questioned about hers just my boys.. the HV handed me a portion control leaflet because he was 2 pounds over what he should be at their one year HV check. Also said both their heads were measuring too big. They were not and she went off the newborn measurement and said it's jumped too much. Baring in mind they were one years old at this point. Saw her again but at a HV clinic and I wasn't going to let her call my boy overweight again and funnily enough just like you she didn't take his height last time and the manager said his height and weight equals out..

I had a 9lb baby who was something like 75th centile for weight when she was born. ( I don’t remember her height percentile but not excessively tall ). At 9 weeks old I had a breastfeeding problem resolved and she then leapt up to 98th centile for weight. She looked like a hamster. No one commented and now at 12 she’s pushing 5’5” tall and is lean. You’re not doing anything wrong and she will be fine.

DC4 was 98th centile for height and weight at 3 months. Ebf too. Some babies are big! She's just coming up for her birthday and she's a well proportioned 75th centile - she slimmed down when she became mobile.

This was very much a surprise to me - my eldest had never been above 25th centile in her 8 years and my DSs have both been average after 3 months (initially teeny tiny preemies, 2nd centile even for their gestatinal age to start with). Babies come in differenr sizes! By all means keep an eye once she is on solids but don't get stressed now.

I'm guessing she's just finding her natural place on the centiles, so I wouldn't change what you're doing. It's good they're keeping an eye just in case but really all sounds fine.

Mine were big babies, born at 9.5lbs. They steadily fell down the centiles and now they're very much 50th centile for height and weight. Sometimes they just need to find their level!

Would you feel better if you removed all numbers from the scenario and just looked at your child as is?

Is she active, interested in food/milk, peeing, pooing, engaged with people?
If yes to those questions then she is a healthy baby.

If no to any of those, then think about that and what you can do about that one thing.

I never listened or knew what my children’s percentiles were. I got them weighed intermittently as they were very low birth weights so wanted to track.

They have grown up healthy regardless of whatever their percentiles were funnily enough.

Honestly, much bigger picture, does it matter?

Bit confused as to what nappies have got to do with a single thing the OP is asking.

The charts are a blunt tool, just there to see if a child next further investigations. It sounds like that's happened here and they have determined that in the context of her height it's not a concern. You might find yourself coming back to this question a few more times as they get older but for now it sounds like they are thriving!

My daughter was borderline overweight for a while. Nearly 50th percentile for weight and only 1st for height. I was worried but the HV, dietician and paediatrician all reassured me that she looked "normal and in proportion". They aren't concerned by an overweight BMI in isolation but in the context of my daughter and her diet and various other things they were happy with her size and development.
Her weight dropped to the 35th percentile and her height moved up to the 4th percentile moving her more comfortably into the healthy range and she doesn't look a big difference slightly slimmer in the face but that's about it.

I don't think you can overfeed a baby. She would be sick after feeding if you did.

My daughter always drank double as it was suggested by my midwife or Dr. Google. Introducing to food was tricky as she loved her milk; it took us a long time until we could swap milk to meal.
She is a happy, healthy 3 years old, and definitely not overweight!

My son is 4 months old now and not really into milk (born 75 percentile and dropped to 25 and stayed there). He is very interested and ready for solid already- I can already tell that he will drop his milk fast and will love food when I start weaning.

Every baby is different. Yours just loves milk. Enjoy for now because she might become a fussy eater as mine did 😅