Separating, what to tell children?

[allisonsingalveston]

Husband and I are separating we have 2 young children (both <5) .

I don't want to go in to reasons of why we are separating

How do I explain to my children that this is happening? I don't have any family experience of this

Do you argue in front of them? You could sit down with them together and tell them that you keep getting cross with each other and it's making you unhappy, so you want to try living in different houses for a bit to make it easier to stay friends. Stress to them that you both love them all up and always will and you'll still spend lots of time with them, but maybe taking turns with each other to look after and play with them so you don't end up annoying each other. Except (if applicable) super-special times like birthdays, Christmas, going to watch them compete at sports/in the school play or whatever. You just don't want to live together right now.