Parental separation anxiety

[Mum2be0523]

does anyone else experience this. Ever since my little boy was born I developed bad separation anxiety, I used to feel uneasy watching people hold him (apart from DH and my mother) and I have barely left him to socialise apart from the odd meal here or there but this will only be with my Mother. My son is nearly two and I have never let the in laws look after him and I cant bring myself too. Its not that they arent nice because they are and he seems to enjoy their company but I cant bring myself to let them look after him I only trust and feel comfortable with my own Mother. Iv also noticed a strong strong link between my in laws and my anxiety I get major anxiety when they call or see a text panicking thinking they are going to ask to look after him or take him somewhere and I just dont want that as selfish as it may sound. Also the equivalent is that I dont want to be left in alone as thats the alternative, and before anyone says well take this as a rest and opportunity to do what I want . Im able to do these things when hes napping or if hes with my mum. I just dont know why im like this towards them and am interested if anyone else feels like this

I can understand your anxiety but I think it's something you need to work on before it impacts your relationship between in laws and your son. If the only reason you won't allow them to look after them is your own anxiety then I think this is unfair to them. They are as much grandparents to your son as your mum and it's unfair to them they don't get to build a relationship with your son as much as your mum and it must be hurtful to them.

You need to reach out and get professional help, simple.

This isnt healthy for you, your relationship with your partner, your relationship with family and will not be healthy for your child as they continue to grow and get older.

it is normal and healthy for your child to form strong bonds with other people and they will be off to school at some point in the near future. You don’t want to send them off feeling insecure and under confident because they’ve not had experience being with anyone but yourself.