Ex's new boyfriend naked

[Daddof2]

Hi everyone, just want to see what people's thoughts are on this.

So I'm a divorced dad of two boys. My youngest 6yo still comes into my bed for a cuddle in mornings. But this morning before he got in to bed he lifted the duvet up to see if I had underwear on. When I asked why he said that my ex wife's boyfriend cuddles him whilst he is naked.

I personally think this is wrong and I would never do that with someone else's children. What do you all think?

Thank you

Tell him not to get in bed with ex wife and new boyfriend. That isn’t inappropriate.

I wouldn't like that at all and it clearly has made your son feel uncomfortable. I would talk to your ex about it.

Obviously it's not appropriate but if the bf sleeps naked and your DS is invading the bed in the morning that's an issue.
Tell DS not to get under the covers if he goes into your ex's bed for a cuddle and to stay on top.

Yes totally inappropriate and I wouldn’t be happy about that either

He shouldn’t get into the bed at his mother’s place. Tell your ex about this.

Yeah this is not ok at all.

Also it’s the adults who need to modify their behaviour as it’s perfectly reasonable for a young child to want a cuddle.

As adults, if you’re going to have a new partner once you have kids, or you’re going to date someone who has kids, there are certain things you just can’t do/changes to your normal behaviour you have to make!

This is a six year old child who is possibly still adjusting to parents being separated, and to a new adult in his life. Telling him not to want cuddles with his mum is not the answer. Why can’t the new chap put some pyjama bottoms on when the child comes in?

An adult man hugs your six year old child whilst the adult male is naked and in bed under a duvet.

That puts your child at huge safeguarding risks.
That puts the adult male in a position where he could be accused of all sorts.

Your child has raised a very serious concern.

I suspect it’s a case of the guy sleeping naked (like a lot of them, even more so in a new ish (?) relationship) and your ds coming to their bed.

Id have a word with mum asking the boyfriend/partner to have some underwear on. Explain your ds was uncomfortable about it (which really is the reason why he checked of you were naked).