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7 year old behaviour / expectations

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Holyrolypoly20 · 25/10/2024 18:55

I'm looking for insight on my 7 year oldest behaviour to determine whether its maybe my expectations that are off?

My daughter turned 7 a few months ago. She is a clever kid and doing very well at school. Recently though, her behaviour towards me has been moody, argumentative and often just pretty rude. Any small things I ask of her (I.e. please could you put the hair bobble away that you just took out of your hair and threw on the floor?) gets ignored or argued with. Nothing is said to her without something coming back in return (you normally like this dinner, please could you sit down and eat something? queue arguments and comments under her breath). I totally get wanting the freedom to make decision and be more grown up but is it normal for every thing I say or ask to be argued with or ignored? She's also seems quite a grown up 7 year old, in terms of how she tslks etc, and this might mean I'm expecting way too much of her. I should say, she's great with her dad who let's the arguing slide more than I do and is happy doing absolutely everything for her (brushing her teeth / cutting up food etc). I've tried calmly talking to her about respect and it being tiring for both of us to be arguing. It's like the teenage years are here already and I feel very sad about it. I just want her to be happy.

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eatyeateat · 25/10/2024 19:14

Just turned 7 - DS and a lot of his friends turned into disagreeable, stubborn pains in the bum! Oh it was a rough time! .But they all settled within the year.

I'm very confident it's just a short burst, you've not got your teenager just yet :)

TheLurpackYears · 25/10/2024 19:23

Going into year 3 seems to be hard work, both mine had a tough time getting over the hump of different expectations in the classroom. They needed more cuddles and nurture as annoying as it can be to feel like they shouldn't need it when they are being a holes.

Holidaysarexoming · 25/10/2024 19:29

No you aren’t expecting too much and if my 7 years old behaved like this I would be coming down hard.

I would have a conversation about respect and if she’s not getting it I have given my DS a taste of his own medicine and spoken to him how he’s spoken to me. He soon stops and occasionally need reminding.

Although I agree with gentle parenting and do practice it I do agree with punishments and if your DD carries on the attitude I would give her a consequence (agreed in a conversation about respect)

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