Is it normal not to feel as strongly about your second baby?

[August21yellowbaby]

With my first baby i was obsessed with him, a million pictures a day, wanted to do all these fun things with him as a baby, dress him up every event / holiday

With my second I just don't feel like that, I don't really want to play / cuddle that much, I don't worry about him that much, don't take many pictures..

Just wondering if that's normal? I do feel guilt for it

I think it's normal to be slightly less gaga about your second baby but if you feel really flat it could also be PPD. Which could, in turn, be due to iron deficiency, lack of sleep, etc etc.

How was your birth? How are you recovering physically? Xx

I'd say it's worth considering if you might have PPD. I didn't have as much time to take photos or organise outfits, but I definitely wanted to cuddle my second one as much as possible.

I agree with the previous comments and consider PPD. It’s normal for things to be different second time around but the fact that you don’t want to cuddle or play with them so much is what stood out to me.

I can definitely relate to this, and actually I suspect I probably do/did have some PPD as I don’t think I feel as well bonded with DC2 in general. However I think some of the not wanting to spend as much time with DC2 as I did with DC1, having cuddles etc, is down to how hectic it is with 2 little ones, I just don’t feel like I have the time, so perhaps it’s a bit of that too?

There's the PFB phenomenon which is normal ... but PPD needs treatment and support x

I was never obsessed with my first but I had more time to make him food from scratch and give him my sole attention. With two it's divided and I used a lot more jars and just getting them both dressed in clean clothes was enough rather than picking out a special outfit. But I adore both my kids - certainly wanted to cuddle them as much as possible!