I’m just looking for some advice… a bit of background…
So last year whilst pregnant my now ex ended our relationship as he believed I was cheating (this was not the case) a week before our daughter was born he asked if I would give us another try, which I did. Fast forward to our daughter being 2 months old he ended it again as again he said I was cheating (not the case). Since ending it in March we would still go on family days out (with his other daughter too) we would spend the night at each others, basically it was like we were still together. He then became very distant said he was too busy to see our baby and would often cancel arrangements (I later found out he was in a relationship) to date he has never had our daughter on his own, the one time I did leave her with him to pop to the shop I came back to find him screaming at her because she was crying and he couldn’t cope, he would often leave when she cried and said I was poisoning her against him. He has struggled to bond with our daughter, I even had to beg him to take his paternity leave because he “wasn’t fussed”
Since being in his new relationship the hour here and there that he would spend with our daughter has completely stopped and he has not seen her since June, she is now 10 months old. I believe he has done this because I asked him not to introduce his new partner until he had formed a relationship with our daughter.
He then applied for mediation which we had recently, it was suggested contact happened gradually as our daughter does not know him. He was upset about this and said that he wants his partner to be involved straight away. This resulted in him saying “I’ll see her when she’s older” and then leaving the meeting early. I have tired to make arrangements with him since but he has not replied. During the meeting it came up that I had applied to CMS becuase he has refused to pay maintenance as he believes he spent “too much money” on me when we were together. Becuase I applied to the CMS he has now threatened court action and says he wants 50/50 and that he won’t help towards nursery fees when I return to work in a few weeks. I just wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation, what did you do? Did it go to court? Did the judge decided 50/50 was best, over night stays? Did you cancel the CMS application (he told me to do this during the meeting)
I’m just really worried, I have been our daughter’s sole carer since she was born, he has had little interest and hasn’t supported us, his family have even stopped seeing her because it upsets my ex. I’ve tried so hard to keep everyone involved and to make arrangements with my ex, but he constantly threatens with court.