10 week old fusses every single night - please help!! What is it??

[Ellax]

10 week old fusses every night? They’re pretty good during the day. Mainly feeding and sleeping and a bit of awake time. Coke 6/7/8 o’clock the only thing that stops them crying is you walking around with them.

tonight I laid down with her in bed and fed t isles as I usually do and she was just screaming. Only thing that finally worked was feeding her whilst carry and walking around with her and then after 30 mins I managed to move us to the bed.

what is this?

why does she get like this every evening?

is there anything I can do.

im starting to get really severe back pain.

struggling as im in my own and toddler doesn’t get any attention in the evening and can’t do any kind of bed time routine with her anymore because DS2 is just screaming.

please help

Honestly it is hard but it’s likely to be just be “the witching hours”, Purple crying, or colic. None of which you can do anything about other than wait it out, all usually improve massively by 3 months. Hang in there and well done x

As PP said, it's the witching hours. By evening they are tired but wired and totally overstimulated by life in general. Walking is soothing. I found it easier to go for an actual walk with them in the sling rather than pacing the house. It does naturally ease though.

www.babydoc.com.au/faq/colic-bore-your-baby-to-sleep/

I think this article is really good. Hope it helps.

Thanks for your comments. It’s happened again tonight of course. These messages have spared me from losing my sanity and has help give me perspective so really thanks so much! I think a bit thing is accepting that there’s nothing I can do about it and just be patient

@Redplenty i would definitely much rather just put her in carrier and go for a walk but I can’t because elder child has their bed time and I of course can’t leave them on their own

Ooh yes that's tough if noone else is home. It might be worth googling how to feed with her in the sling as at least then it will take some of the strain off you rather than trying to just hold her and walk and feed. It took a bit of practice but I got pretty good at it with my little one, and it was so handy for feeding when chasing after my toddler at the same time.

Sounds like a touch of colic. Hopefully it will pass in a week or two
But keep an eye on it in case it points to a milk allergy.

If it's any help to give you a suggestion which you are absolutely free to reject. I used to put them in the bath at the same time in the evenings. Quick dip for the baby, dry off and a super quick feed (one boob) while toddler splashed around. Then pop the baby into a cot or onto a bath mat a bit sleepy hopefully and sort the toddler.

Then story time for toddler while feeding the baby. If it goes well, the baby will drift off and can be popped into bed while you have a cuddle and a second story just for the toddler. But sometimes the baby is enjoying the story too much. However ridiculous it sounds explaining to your toddler that babies have teeny tiny tummies that fill and empty quickly can help. My toddler (2.5) was interpreting it that the baby was getting lots of cuddles. That feeding was happening had completely escaped them. I was able to explain as the weeks went on that they were growing and were not so hungry all the time. You'd be surprised at how empathetic a toddler can be when their protective instincts are raised.

It doesn't always work. Some evenings are hell. It will pass. And in a terrifying passage of time you will be talking to them about GCSE subject choices and empathising with a new or second time around mum and remembering just how hard it was. But you will get through it. Wine helps😘

Yes, the witching hour(s). It won't be forever. It is so hard though, I remember it well. My daughter still gets a bit crabby around 5pm but its nothing like the newborn days. I read something once that said "if you have a crab, put it in water" and it definitely helped us to pop her in the bath if she was being a nightmare in the evenings.